2006-07-06 06:53:25 · 12 answers · asked by Stacy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Depending upon how deep the issues and how much time you have been able to devote to your issues, they can last for a very long time. Until you give them their due and focus on seriously working through them they will always exist.
2006-07-06 06:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Stacey,
I have a similar problem. Not so much along the lines of being a widow but I still have questions for my father who is no longer with me. I don't know if I'm mad or if sad or what to do next. I guess I'm just confused. People ask me how long it takes to get over a loss like that but I don't think you ever "get over it". I just learned to live with it. My heart aches on a daily basis when something comes out of nowhere and reminds me. I'm sorry for you loss and I'm sorry I don't have an answer but you're not alone out here and if you still feel the way you do after 4 years, you must have lost someone very special.
2006-07-06 14:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by woolly_bully_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is. If the individual has not worked through any of those issues or has not done any emotional inventories on herself whatever she had 4 years ago is what she will still have. If she never worked on them how would they disappear? Think about it like this: If a little boy throws rocks at passing cars and one day cracks a car window, if the little boy is not scolded or otherwise chastised for his actions how would he know that what he is doing is wrong? Same way with issues that need to be resolved; if nobody works on resolving them how would they get resolved or disappear???...
2006-07-06 13:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger is a secondary emotion..... so what are you angry about!?
You are the only one who really knows! There are some really good books out there on grieving....it sounds like to me that you may be a bit stuck in the grieving process. Grief is a normal part & healthy part of life. That's why I recommand you go to the library or see someone to talk about your anger. It is obivious that the matter that is bothering is important to you, otherwise you would not feel angry! I know you'll find the issues facing you because you care about yourself & you deserve to be HAPPY & LOVED!!!!!!!!
2006-07-06 14:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by Liane M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well YEAH!
Your love one died. That is crappy!
What do you think...... Don't let anyone tell you different or force you to start dating until you are ready!
You should still be MAD and have issues.
Who wouldn't.
I know a lady that is 63 and her hubby died 7 years ago and she is mad at her hubby for dieing.......lol
Your hurt and you have a right to be hurt and mad.
You'll get over it within time just keep on going and try to find some kind of happiness.
Your normal !
2006-07-06 14:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. Let things go.....there's nothing you can do about it now anyway. Life goes on, find someone new.......don't stay home being all depressed, or mad about things that happened in the past. Leave what's in the past in the past, and look towards the present and the future. Keep on keeping on.....you'll be a lot happier when you do.....best of luck to you........
2006-07-06 14:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is normal, but it is not necessarily healthy for your mental, emotional, and even physical well-being. I'm not sure what you are still having issues about, but I would hazard to guess that they have to do with your deceased spouse. I would strongly recommend seeing a therapist who will be able to assist you with closure.
2006-07-06 13:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need closure. Go to the grave site and talk. Get it all out of your system. Or just take a photo and scream at it. Pray to him/her. Write a letter. As long as you try something to get it out you will start feeling better. Work slowly at it and eventually it will be better. Just remember, they can still hear you.
2006-07-06 14:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by teapot2432 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd imagine it would still come up now and again. If you're really worried, talk to someone. Someone you really trust and can open up to. If you want to and can afford it, talk to a therapist. Although a trusted friend might be better, not to mention cheaper. :)
2006-07-06 13:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal in some instances...you need to find someone to talk to, who will listen to you....After four years you need to get over it...he is dead so there is nothing you can do....
2006-07-06 13:58:20 · answer #10 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋