My boyfriend has changed after the the 4th of July. We were both at this theme park and I wanted to spend some time with him out there, but when I told him he was like "I'm gonna walk with my boys for about an hour" and then he said he was gonna call me and walk with me after that. Did he call? No. That really hurt me. And after that, I saw that he hasn't been calling me in the morning like he usually do or on his lunch break while he's at work. I'm wondering if it's another girl...How shoud I handle this? What should I do? What should I tell him?
2006-07-06 06:28:04 · 13 answers · asked by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would suggest to ask him if anything is wrong.. Let him know the changes you've noticed in him these past few days. He's probably upset about something. I don't think those are signs of infedelity, but his mind does seem to be occupied. Just be upfront and be honest about how you feel.
2006-07-06 06:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel in your heart he's cheating? Maybe he just needs a break... either way, don't panic and loose your cool. If and when he calls don't feed into that whole "why haven't you called?, what's wrong? are you cheating on me?" routine, because it's sad a pitiful (no offense). The worse thing a woman can do is to act desperate or upset. If he doesn't call, he doesn't' deserve you and you should back up and off from him too... in other words..."don't blow up his phone, and don't let him see you sweat" and don't start asking mutual friends about him. Now when he doesn't hear from you he'll probably be the one to start wondering "what's going on and start sweatin you". So, don't chase him... it's so sad to watch women these days do that. Look the best you can at ALL times, be yourself and be happy.
If a few a months have passed by, write a letter to him stating that you've officially moved on. Don't add a lot of "this and that" just get to the point. Matter of fact just write... " I've moved on.. Peace!" That way you'll have closure on the relationship. If he never calls again, at least you'll know it was not meant to be... so you're better off. Some day a person worthy of your time and attention will be with you and not play games like that. In the mean time.... just be cool. The art of silence can be so deafening. It works wonders... Trust!
2006-07-06 14:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be nothing. He could have taken some ragging from his boys about hanging out with his girlfriend instead of hanging with his boys.
I would give it a couple days and then say something to him. Don't accuse him of cheating, but ask him if everything is alright and/or if something happened at the park he might want to tell you about.
If he still acts cold, let him be for a week. I know it will be hard and you will want to call but occupy yourself with some summer beauty pampering or go out with your friends, but give him some space & time to come around.
Mom always said "The chase is better than the catch"
Good luck & if he doesn't come around he wasn't for you.
2006-07-06 13:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the most obvious explanation is that its another girl.otherwise he is not interested in you anymore..you know what..if he really likes you he would always want to spend maximum possible time with you and talk with you whenever possible..well first of all see if it is convinient for him to meet or call you regularly and then if it is and still he doesnt then its obvious that he aint interested anymore...well tell you what..all you have to do now is look into the mirror and hold your fist..andd then think about him and you will get a thought on what to do.....otherwise go to him and softly enquire bout what has happened..his reaction will tell you the answer...anyway you better gather your energy and talk to him...tell hom that it cannot go on this way..
2006-07-06 13:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by alfred a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is possible that he might be cheating thats why you should comfront him. Because if you dont then he'll just keep doing it and it will just be causing you pain so the best thing to do would be to ask him about it!!!
2006-07-06 13:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by jenna G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl my boyfriend is the same way and i feel the same way as you do all you can do is act like it doesnt bother you because that way he will see that you are not affended and so he will see that he could be losing somthing great it seemed to work for me because now he is calling all the time
2006-07-06 13:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by dunhamwifey04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be assertive. He may deny it, but that's your best bet. Just walk over to him and ask, 'Are you cheating on me?' It gives him less time to react, rather than taking it slowly and giving him the time needed to formulate a lie.
2006-07-06 13:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Snapple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a strong possiblity that he maybe cheating but make sure u have hard core facts of it before u act on anything. it may be just that he need some space but i don't think so.
2006-07-07 11:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Nate Will 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know if he actually is cheating on you, but it definately sounds like he is loosing interest- or perhaps has his eyes on someone else- best advice, dont flip out!!! just back off- that way he will either come to you if he really wants you or he wont which means that his interest is in someone else- but either way you will not come off looking (or feeling) like a pscho and you will maintain your dignity
2006-07-06 13:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by blahblahblah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to confront him about the situation, let him know how you feel, and ask him to be honest with you.
2006-07-06 13:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋