He has a gf but he is still trying to make me fall for him. At first, I thought he just wanted us to be friends, but now he has told me that he loved me...
I didn't want to accept this situation, even though I like him. But he brings me flowers, candies...
I don't know if I should accept them
Why is he doing this...? I've never encouraged him.
I feel kind of frustrated cuz I like him and I would be with him if he were single....
2006-07-06 06:27:52 · 43 answers · asked by AnneMarie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Some men are like that. Maybe you should just tell him how you feel
2006-07-06 06:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by knitting guy 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to his girlfriend and do it now before he gets even more interested. She needs to know. Would you want your boyfriend doing that behind you back. If he wont get the message then maybe his girlfriend should relay it to him. You need proof though. Some women are stupid and dont believe it. Show her the cards, candies, and flowers. Tell her that you are not interested in him and have told him this and are very sorry about it. Dont accept the gifts but his GF has a right to know what an two timing cheat he is.
One more thing, if you did get with him after the fact, think about this. If he does it to her what makes you think he wont do it to you. Once a cheat always a cheat. Remember that.
2006-07-06 06:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop participating. By accepting his gifts & flirts you are encouraging him. Knowing he has a girlfriend makes you just as guilty. Think about it, how would you feel if you had a boyfriend & he was doing this type of thing to you with somebody else. And besides, who's to say that you are the only one this guy is flirting with? Stop encouraging him.
2006-07-20 06:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Glo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were any kind of man he would not pursue you while he had a girl. If he really wanted you and not his girl he would have broke it off with her already. Maybe he wants you to say you want a relationship before so he has a fall back plan.
Just remember if you do date him, this is how you will be treated when someone else catches his eye. And don't kid yourself, given the way he is handling this situation, It will happen to you too.
2006-07-20 01:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a heart to heart with his gf... honestly would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot. From the way he is acting - he is scum. No one would honestly do that to people they love. If he truly loved you he would not care about ending it with his current gf and being with you. Hell - he would try to stop the world just to be beside you. Doesn't seem like he is doing a whole lot but cheating
2006-07-06 06:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, just tell him he has a gf and that until he is free, you aren't free to be with him. But he can bring all the flowers and candy he wants, just tell him thank you. :)
2006-07-18 03:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't accept him. No man should be playing games when
he has a girlfriend. Faith and Trust is very Important but this man
doesn't have either. Don't feel frustrated cause all he's hurting is himself.
You deserve better and it will come.
2006-07-19 14:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think a man needs to be encouraged to initiate action? He is either trying to get into your pants or is serious. If you like him, tell him to get rid of the GF and then you will take him seriously. If not, then tell him to get lost.
2006-07-08 00:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by James F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, tell him that you don't want any gifts from him because he has a girlfriend, but if he doesn' listen, let his g/f know. You don't want her coming after you, that could get pretty ugly. Don't accept his gifts no matter what because it'll show him that you are interested. (You might want to record him when you tell him that you don't want any gifts from him. This might be useful if you have to let his g/f know what's been going on and he trys to make it look like you were the on trying to pursue him.)
2006-07-18 11:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by DazzleMe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way - he's dating someone and making a play for you...then you'll date him and he'll make a play for somebody else -- he's a player -- don't fall for it. All his affection is just an act to get you hooked, then he'll use you the way he's using his current girlfriend. This guy doesn't seem worth it at all.
2006-07-06 07:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are trying to believe that you never encouraged this. If you had a bf would you want a girl to be spending the same time that you are with this guy? Would you want some girl to do the things you are doing and feeling to your bf?
He is doing this bc you are showing him that he is welcome to do this, and when he is single and seeing you will he not do this again but now be doing it whith anothe girl while you are with him?
Now how attractive is he?
2006-07-08 01:20:52 · answer #11 · answered by sandpeople_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋