Me and my sis dont get along,she didnt call&tell me our dad was sick&dying.now he is gone how do I forgiveher?

Question

I tried to stay in touch with him but he lived with her and she would not let me talk to him. She rule dhim and everyone around her . That is why we didnt get along because I would not let her run my life. I am just hurt because I did not get to say good bye to him asnd let him know I love him very much.

Answer 1

you know what, forgive your sister. ive been through something that sounds similar to what youre going through. my mom just recently died. i didnt get to say to her, see you on the other side. my siblings and i were not speaking because they all knew she was ill and leaving and did not tell me. forgive her. life is short. anger eats away at your heart. don't waste your time being angry. i didn't! ask God for his help and he will take that feeling away from you. forgive her.

Answer 2

Often forgiving others is the easy part, forgiving ourselves the hard one. You did not say how you and your Dad were distanced enough so you did not know of his illness. You have to first work on why this happened, then forgive yourself. Come to terms with it and why you and your Father were not closer, whatever the reason. Then you will find forgiving your sister will be an easier task, talk to her, really talk to her. What she did was wrong, she needs to apologize and explain what she did to you. Don't argue, if possible a neutral party being there might help. You never know, you may have lost your Da in this life but your sister is still here, that may be your next blessing.

Answer 3

Very sorry to hear of your loss, I lost my father 4 years ago. Forgiving your sister is a way of letting go of the intense feelings you would likely have in this situation and that would be good for you . So in doing so its really for you and not so much for your sister if you get my meaning. Life is too preciously short to contain hatred and ill feelings , forgiving her doesn't necessarily mean hanging out together , it means you've given yourself permission to move on without tormenting yourself with ill feelings. Do it for yourself , you need not express it or could if you so choose . Best wishes to you.

Answer 4

I believe in this case that your sister made a big mistake,but also didn't know how to tell you since you don't get along. But remember if God thought you could handle it he would have shown you a sign or message telling you to go forth. Forgive her anyway at this time you need each other.And my mother in-law's sister did the same thing to her with their Mother in California,and us being in VA.

Answer 5

You have to find it within yourself to do so.

Forgiveness is very personal and no one can tell you how to live your life.

Let me recommend a book. "The Sunflower" by Elie Weisel. He tries to come to grips with forgiving the Nazi soldier who tormented him in the concentration camp and that soldier was dying.

It also offers insights as to how other people might address the issue.

At the very least, it will crystalize in your mind what is forgiveness.

Answer 6

Find out why she didn't. The action is horrible, but by finding out why she didn't tell you, you might be able to get a better sense of clarity on the matter.

Also, think of what your father would have wanted: his daughters never talking to each other again, or his death having purpose in bringing them back together-

Answer 7

that was really in-sensitive cowboy!!

I think the best thing for you to do, would be to move on with your life. The fact that she kept such a secret for you is a permanent scar on your relationship. If she didn't even care to tell you about your father being so sick, what makes you think she is going to care that it hurt you. Best wishes. This is a tuff one.

Answer 8

Forgive her for YOUR sake, not hers. If you don't you'll carry that anger inside and it can affect any other relationships you have and you'll just be miserable and that's no way to live a life. Nothing can change the past but we can control our future.

Answer 9

Dont worry ,sumpeople never understand...they always mixdup DUTY&EMOTIONS. u dont need 2 forgive her, she dosnt deserve it.i suggest even dont think about it.as she forgot u so rudely that she even didn't call u on such situation...why are u wasting time thinking aboutsuch a b*****ch.but dont do a samething to her only 2 punish her.if a dog barks on u will u bark on return?

Answer 10

It sounds as though you want some pity... but the main question is - If you cared so much about your father you would have been in contact with him personally and not had to rely on your sister to monitor his well-being.