i do everything for my family and when i ask them to do something for me they act like im not even there. or like they are to good for me.and they treat me like i dont matter to them. there is always someone or something more important to them the me.and im always so depressed because of it. what do i do??
2006-07-06 06:14:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I've always tried to live by the golden rule, "Treat others the way you want to be treated!". That's all you can do. If you are doing a favour for a person, whom ever it is, and are expecting something in return.... Are doing it with joy!? Are you doing it with certain expectations!? I would like to mention, that as you give you will also get in return! It 's not always the people you help that will return the favour, it may be someone else who does the giving. One thing I've learnt in life is to let others own their own stuff and I'll own mine. And the other thing is that if I want to help out a friend, family member or even a stranger, I do it because I want to, because I have the time & the means to help out. If I know I can't do it I've said, "No sorry I'm too busy that day or I just don't have the ability or strenght to help you today.
Sooooo what I'm trying to say is what are your intentions behide helping out your family....... do you do it to look good!?, do you do it to get something in return!?
This is all food for thought I know you have the answer with in you & you will do the right thing because you care alot about your family, otherwise you would have not shown this concern, and that's beautiful! Thank you for being such a wonderful & caring person! You have great things come your way....just be the great person you are!!!!!! Give from the heart with Love & Joy and you well receive even more from the heart with Love & Joy!!!!!!!
2006-07-06 06:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by Liane M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you have to be selfish. I know this sounds counterproductive, but seriously. If you are always doing for others and you aren't even getting so much as a "thank you" then maybe it's time for you to focus less on your family and more on yourself. Start journaling or treat yourslf to a jazz concert or something. Splurge on yourself, be it with your time, your money, your energy, etc. If you really feel the need to help others, find a place to volunteer. You can go to the YMCA, the Ronald McDonals House, a soup kitchen... whatever makes you happy and fulfilled and not just spent from all the work with no good treatment in return.
2006-07-06 06:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by Subira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a teenager? If so, just wait a couple of years and your whole outlook will change. Once you leave home, you develop a whole new take on situations that once upset you. Once you remove yourself from the environment, you realize that these problems are really no big deal and there are much more important things in life to worry about than whether or not someone is paying attention to you. If you are no longer a teenager, you need to move out as soon as possible.
2006-07-06 06:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by Who, me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop doing stuff for them all the time. My parents basically act like I dont even matter anymore, since I got married. And got married when they didnt approve. My husband and my kids are my life, and they make me happy. My parents dont call, write or anything. And I leave them alone. I think about what does make me happy and realize what I do have, and I pray to the Lord every day and thank him for giving me such a wonderfull husband and kids. I always keep the Lord in my life, and he always helps and guides me. Just think about the things that do make you happy, or go out and do things that make you feel good. Don't let them get to you or let them even know they are getting to you. Just do your own thing.
2006-07-06 06:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by Piper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn to your friends and boycott your stinking family!!! I've found in my life that friends can be more of a family to you than your own flesh and blood. Trust me, there's no use getting depressed over a bunch of ungrateful blood-sucking leeches, and you'll feel like ten times better divorcing yourself from them, even if you only do it temporarily.
2006-07-06 06:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Princess Toadstoolie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing I did--cut them out of your life. They are like a cancer to your mental health and are no good for you. It is hard at first, but in the end you will be much happier. I have closer relationships with friends than I ever did with family.
Stay strong and STAY AWAY!
2006-07-06 06:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Yarn Junkie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression is part of the reason you feel the way you do about your family. Seek some counseling to help you better deal with daily problems.
2006-07-06 07:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by Raymond 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to do everything for them. Start thinking about yourself and what you want out of life and do for yourself. If you have always been the one to do everything for them then they just expect it out of you.
2006-07-06 06:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by girlpower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to them and ask them why they arent paying attention to you. If they say they are tell what you asked us on here, but only put it in a form that they can understand.
2006-07-06 06:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by bittykittietwinklepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is too bad. I would not waste any more time on them. Volunteer to help those in need who will appreciate your time and help.
Good luck!
G.G.
2006-07-06 06:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋