First and formost if you're with the same guy and he's the daddy you have nothing to worry about. You know it takes two to tango and he may or may not be as dissapointed but he has to realizse that he contributed willingly. And this is the end product, just have faith and be strong. As for mom and dad yes they might get mad at first but once they see those little fingers and toes that's all she wrote. They'll love that baby just as much as you will probably more. You're going to be alright, remember faith is all you need to get throught his tough time.
2006-07-06 06:18:20
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answered by friend 3
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Since the two of you are already planning on getting married, I am sure you have discussed the possibility of having children. Sit him down and start discussing your plans for the future. Tell him that the children you planned for the future have decided to come a bit early. Tell him how much you love him and how much you love the child you will share and then you can discuss whether you want to move the wedding up or deal with one big event at a time. Don't get married just because you are pregnant. His name can be on the birth certificate and your child can have his last name either way. He loves you and knows that you did not make this child alone. There will be an initial shock, but together you will have a great pregnancy. This involves you and the father of your child and you should not worry about what anyone else has to say. This child was conceived in love and will be born into love.
2006-07-06 19:27:41
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answered by stewbdoosmrs 2
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Ok, there's a few things here. First of all, if you didn't want to have a baby right now, why weren't you using protection? Condoms, spermicides, and birth-control pills are all available to you. It's a different matter entirely if it happened even with protection; at least you were trying to do something about it, but if you weren't using it at all, then that's just irresponsible on your part and his. I'm not trying to be mean or rude, but it's the truth.
That being said, you just need to be honest with your fiancee. Tell him about it, and then call your doctor and schedule an appointment to see if you actually are, and have him come along with you. Chances are, if he really loves you and cares about you like I'm sure he already does, he'll be happy about this. I'm not sure how your parents will react, but if they've already given consent for you and your fiancee to get married, they'll probably take it well.
And trust me, no one on here (except for some rude a**holes) thinks you're a prostitute. Good luck and I wish you the best!
2006-07-06 13:14:47
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answered by Adam 3
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Look, just say Honey, I'm pregnant. I was in the same situation 3 years ago. The thing is, my fiance knew I was pregnant before I did. How crazy is that? I thought my parents would think I was a whore of something but it's quite the opposite. My fiance and and I now have 2 children. We're still not married but planning our wedding for next June. It will be okay. Don't worry too much. Think of this as an early wedding present. Good luck and congratulations.
2006-07-06 13:34:57
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answered by Anonymous
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First of all if you have any family members that would EVER think that you are a prostitute then they are'nt worth the tree they were thrown out of!! If your fiance loves you enough to marry you this should make him happy...That usually comes later in the relationship but you will have to rearrange your lives because a Child is a gift from God and you were blessed so do not consider this a "Problem"consider yourselves lucky because MANY couples can only dream of having a child to share thier love with ! You will be fine...If he gets upset then my dear you should really second guess marriage to this guy because a REAL marriage is based on LOVE,TRUST ,COMMITMENT" and friendship as well as honesty so there is no right way ,you just need to tell him soon...Good Luck!
2006-07-06 13:13:18
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answered by kim.york 2
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Well firstly, you 'think' you are pregnant. You need to know for sure before you start tying yourself up in guilt.
Secondly, it took two to conceive the child so I don't see you can possibly be the only one that has to shoulder the changes this will bring.
You have a fiance, you're not someone who went out, got drunk and went to bed with ten strangers. I don't see how you can equate this with 'being a prostitute'. Accidents happen, frequently. I was one.
Forget what people will think. if you are pregnant you will suddenly have lots of choices to make, hopefully with your fiance's support. You will become an adult overnight, and the first thing adults do is tend to pay less attention to what others think. it's one of the perks of getting older.
You didn't become pregnant alone, you shouldn't expect to deal with it alone. And who knows, maybe your parents will be delighted at the idea, even if they are shocked at first
Good luck
2006-07-06 13:10:32
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answered by Eden* 7
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get a test before you tell him to make sure that you are pregnant. If you are pregnant then your family is full of dumb asses for thinking you're a hooker for getting pregnant. I'm not married and I have a daughter and a son on the way and It doesn't make me a hooker. This is the 21 st century. A lot of women aren't getting married just because they don't want to, but they still have children.Tell your family to grow up if they think your a hooker.
2006-07-06 13:10:06
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answered by jess_brenda_04 2
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I know your going threw a hard time right now. You have a life in side you now and you need to think about him or her. Be strong for the baby and tell your fiancee. If he loves you he will be there for you!! If not.... you will still be OK. Your parents might take it hard, but they will get over it! Things will work out at the end!! My advice to you is to be STRONG!! You can do it!!
2006-07-06 18:13:04
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answered by myocean 2
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Stop worring about Yourself and your Fiancee and start worring about the baby cause from now on it's not about you or your fiancee anymore... it's time to grow up and face the responsabilities that you have towards your baby ..so grow up and think of your baby. Your parents and Fiancee will come along if you take charge of the situation
good luck and enjoy your baby.
2006-07-06 13:16:03
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answered by Rocky 2
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who care what they think. plan a nice dinner, give him a gift with a cute little baby outfit in it . For dinner have baby back ribs, baby peas, baby corn see a theme? then give the gift. Have a baby doll teddy on while you have dinner. then tell the family be happy or don't come. this is their grandchild. they WILL come around once they see the child. TRUST me...been there done that.
2006-07-06 13:10:17
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answered by jennilynn 1
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