My friend called me at three a.m. last night because she was frustrated. Apparently, she was at her boyfirends house last night, and things got a little frisky. Now they'd had this bet they sort of made that he could make her beg for it, and she said she definately wouldn't. So when he stradled her (fully clothed) and rocked into her, she was ready to roll. But he was the one to roll... over onto his back saying he had to be up by five for work. So now, she's thinking a little payback is in order. She doesn't really plan on withholding sex from him tonight. But she wants him to at least know what she was going through. He thought it was funny, she didn't. Now she was thinking light bondage. You know, silk scarves so he can't move. I don't know that thats a good idea. She's a little shy, but she's determined to make him write. Another of her little problems is that she's never been on top before, and she wants to try that out. Any ideas on what to do with a tied up man? or instead of.
2006-07-06 05:53:30 · 5 answers · asked by Sica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the difficult part for her is to get him to agree to being tied up.
Anyway, suppose he is tied up in full glory. The magic words are "tease and denial". Here are some tips and ideas.
- Prepare in advance. Ropes, toys like feathers, ice cubes, tissues of different structure, oil.
- Surprise are fun. Use a blindfold. Ex. drag a finger over skin and lips but put a tongue in his mouth. No straight lines. Try to keep the suspense at a maximum, try to take him to the edge as often as you can. Keep you distance: the weight shifts on the bed will kill the surprises.
- Multi-task. Use two hands and mouth simultaneously, doing different things. Bite a nipple, use a hand to tease an inner thigh and the other hand to play with the hair. You get the idea
- Intermittent, incessant teases. Oral, then kiss and suck and bite all over them, then return again to oral play. Interrupt with props and toys. Change gears as often as you're able.
- Talk as you play. Tease with little suggestive comments, investigate how he's enjoying things. Most of all, be sure he knows you're having fun too. But don't talk incessantly, variation is the key.
- Cover every inch of his body with your hands, mouth,
and any other body part you can think of. But if he seems to like what you are doing at a time, it's time to switch again.
Have fun!
2006-07-06 19:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by cordefr 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Bondage of any kind is going to have to require consent of the part of both parties, primarily because it wouldn't be fun otherwise. If she has been a bottom for the whole of the relationship, perhaps she can experience what bondage is like by consenting to be bound herself. This will help her overcome shyness, at least in regard to the activity itself, plus it will allow her to generate ideas and fantasies based on her experience, and learn from any problems that arise.
Hope that helps.
2006-07-06 10:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, what's really fun is if both the partners were tied up. Imagine both of them with their wrist bound behind their backs, then they feel each other with other body parts. Delicious!
2006-07-08 06:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress sexy at first. She could touch herself more and react without letting him touch her. That drives a man crazy Specially if he wants to be in control. She'll have him wimpering and beggin in no time.
2006-07-06 05:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Sorry I felt like I was reading a Harlequin.
2006-07-06 05:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋