my boyfriend owns his own business doing marine electronics, he works 12-13 hours a day 6 days a week and i am a stay at home mom to a 5 month old son and a 8 year old daughter. does anybody else take care of their kids without hardly any help?
2006-07-06 05:45:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes ma'am I do. I have 2 kids, 14 and 6 both girls and on top of raising kids I have the whole house to myself. The only thing my fiance takes care of his the lawn when he's home on the weekends and garbage day. Other than that he is the fun and the good guy of the situation. The times I hate the most is when I'm just so tired and want just a few moments to relax when he gets home and the kids are acting like monsters and I ask for help, he'll pat my leg and say, get'em mommy. He don't do it as often as my sisters husband but it's still annoying and I've gone to him about it and he's trying to do a little more.
I had to put it this way....you work your hours and I work mine at home. if you're aloud a certain amount of time off to just watch then I'm taking a certain amount of time off to just watch. good luck bubba. and then I sick the kids on him
2006-07-06 06:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by pohter1 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I do the same. My boyfriend works from 7am-4pm & then goes to school (BA in Bus Man) from 5pm-9pm everyday except Sat he works from 7am-6pm with no school & Sun he has off all day. But by Sun all he wants to do is sleep! I understand that though, because he works hard so I don't have to & I can stay at home for our son's first year instead of getting a babysitter, I can have that bond with him. It's like a task though just to get him to get me a bottle once a night lol I need a break too! Jayden is a 24 hour job so I know exactly how you feel.
2006-07-07 00:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by starlightstarbright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my daughter's mother decided that she didn't want to be Mom anymore. She didn't just leave me, she left her daughter, too. Now, I'm raising her on my own, with help from my parents.
There are good and bad points to having a workaholic for the other parent.
Good- For one thing, at least he HAS A JOB. There are too many people with kids who don't work. I'm going to assume that since it's his company, he's making lots of money, which is good for you. If he's not making very good money, he should close up shop and look for work.
Bad- Are the kids going to see him at all? If they do, is he going to feel like spending time with them, or will he be too tired from working all day? I'm assuming that he starts at 6am, which doesn't put him at home until after 7pm, which is COMPETELY unfair to you. You are going to be getting the kids ready for school Every day, cooking dinner EVERY night, helping the kids with homework EVERY night, bathing, feeding, playing with and nurturing them all by yourself. You might as well be doing it all by yourself, that's what it will feel like. You might be game for that right now, but wait 5 years. You'll be pulling your hair out with a teenager and a 5 year old, that you are doing all the work for.
Depending on if the kids are his or not, I think you should tell him to come home early two or three days a week. That's not asking too much. f he cares about you and the kids, he will want to spend time with you.
I think eating dinner as a family is very important. Most people get off work at 5pm, then come home and spend time with their family. If he's not home until 7-8, it will be as if the three of you are a family, and he's just someone who lives with you.
Bottom line is this. It takes two people to raise a child. (One person CAN do it, but it's VERY VERY tough. Major props to all you parents who do it on your own!!) I don't see how it's possible for him to be a parent, if he's working 72-78 hours a week. Your kids won't know who he is, and he won't know who your kids are.
Make him be an active participant in the parenting of your kids.
2006-07-06 13:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Schmancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same boat and when ever I suggest that he take some time off he says money doesnt grow on trees so now I just dont say anything at all. However my baby is 9 mths and now starts pulling out of his arms to come to mine. Dad is worried that his son wont want to be with him. So he comes home early 3 times a week and no longer works sunday.
2006-07-06 13:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew what your boyfriend was like when you decided to have his baby. What did you expect was going to happen? Sounds like you need to sit down and have a talk with him about your relationship--- you probably should have done it before the baby. If he is serious about family, first he needs to marry you, so if he gets killed, or is disabled, you and the child will be able to get social security money. If he doesnt want to make that commitment, I would start planning how to support myself and my kids, because he's not gonna be around much longer.
2006-07-12 01:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by senyax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife handles my 3 boys just fin. Your lucky that your able to stay home and raise your kids. Leave them to a daycare or relative could have dire consciences.
2006-07-06 12:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Took care of my own kids for 17 years. I now am married but those seveteen years were hard
2006-07-06 12:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he's trying to provide for his family. Does he complain that you dont come to work and help him?
2006-07-06 13:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by psilohead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to babysit little kids..i love kids..but i got to work(cause men can't babysit)...T_T
2006-07-06 12:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Hart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋