Well, I have always never been the skinniest of all my friends, but I am definately not fat. I have always been involved in alot of things, church, camps, friends, the beach, parties, everything! I cheer at my high school in my town and have enough friends. But my parents never seem to be happy with anything I do! My arms were sore from all the conditioning at Americheer, and my mom wanted to work out with me and do push ups. When I said taht my arms hurt, she didnt say "Stop being lazy you fat cow!" But she might as well have. And even if I barely eat all day the minute we sit down and I start to eat They constintly nag about my caloric intake and my excersize. if you could see me, you would really see that I am not big. But when we go to the movies and I want to get a soda, my dad got mad at me and said really loudly "fine you can be a fat cheerleader, I dont care." It was so embarassing! Please help, I dont know if im being sensitive or if they are being a little too critical!
2006-07-06 05:40:21 · 12 answers · asked by Jenni 2 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
actually my parents were both skinny and alwaya perfect in high school.. never fat. but im not fat!
2006-07-06 05:50:16 · update #1
oh yeah, and im fourteen going on fifteen, and i have already brought it up but the blow me off.
2006-07-06 05:50:59 · update #2
Hey there,
I'm really sorry your parents are being so critical of you. I think they are acting that way partially from their own insecurities, and partially because they are trying to protect you. Protect you from becoming fat (you probably never will be)...like it's the worst possible thing that could happen to you. It's natural for parents to want to protect their kids, but I think they are focusing too hard on physical appearance. Please be kind to yourself, you are worth a lot more than what you look like.
Have you ever expressed how it makes you feel when your parents act this way? You won't be able to change your parents, but at least you'll get your concerns out there. You'll just have to learn that what they are saying really has little to do with you, and let it be, try not to take it personally (harder said than done)!
Focus on developing how wonderful you are, and love yourself. A healthy lifestyle will be a result of truly being comfortable with you who you are, and truly appreciating this.
Wishing all the best...be kind to yourself!
2006-07-06 05:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by gem 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not being too sensitive, your parents are being too INsensitive! They should love you the way you are. The only time I think parents should bring up weight issues is if the child is very obese. But it doesn't sound like you are!
It sounds like you are very active and eat well. You're supposed to have a voracious appetite when you're 14-15 yrs old! As long as you stay active, you're fine!
The important thing is that you are healthy. Confront your parents about the things they say to you. If that is unsucessful, all three of you should hash it out in counseling. I'm serious. Not dealing with this now could (but not necessarily) cause serious self-esteem issues and possibly eating disorders later in life.
2006-07-06 12:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by birdiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 11.I think I might be able to solve your problem.My dad is like that too, and my step mom.Exept I cant do this with my drunken drug addict dad.Here's my plan:When they start getting into the calorie thing, say, "I can only do so much!" in an excited voice.Then,when they realy start to make you mad,say,"You aren't to skinny yourself,"in a low but loud enough so they can here it voice.If they ground you then you could always come out of your room looking all sweet with the most little girl face you have and say,"I'm sorry.It's just sort of agrivating.Maybe you guys could help me with it but be a little calmer about it?" in a soft voice.E-mail me soon and tell me what you think.
2006-07-06 13:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is awful of your parents!!! Shame on them! My daughter is overweight, she knows it. I offer her help if she asks, but I certainly don't nag her. I keep the house filled w/ veggies for snacks and things like that. Your parents don't sound like the know how to help your situation. My daughter has a slow matabelism, and vitamins seem to help a little bit. I don't blame you for being upset with them. you should tell them that they hurt your feelings and their comments are creating resentment. Maybe if you were more proactive, like asking them to set up an appointment for a nutrinalist or a holistic doctor, they would see that you were taking the weight issue serious, and they might get off your back. I'm sorry your parents do this to you. I'm sure you are a beautiful girl, big - or - small!!!! God bless you.
2006-07-06 12:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they are being too critical, but as hard as it is, they are your parents, and you must respect them.
Whether they are wrong or not, soon enough you will be by yourself and out from under their shelter. They will want to protect you your whole life, but just try to smile, bear it, and learn to forgive them.
They could be doing it for many reasons. Were they ever the 'fat kids' in school? It could be their own self esteem issues talking. Don't take what you learn to lash out at them, but just for yourself to understand them better. They sound like they are hurting.
2006-07-06 12:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by zahes madchen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are being overly critical. They expect you to be perfect, whatever their definition of that is. Ask them sometime what they have accomplished so wonderfully in their life that they have the right to nag at you as they do. I am not a child, I am a mother of two kids. Overly critical parents harm kids, they don't help them.
2006-07-06 12:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in mii opinion...ur being a little "shy." U shood go up 2 them and tell them politly that when they say stuff like that 2 u it hurts ur feeling a lot and u dont appreciate it. thats wut u shood say 2 them....and ask them if they cood stop cuz its not cool 2 put 1 of ur OWN children down like that.....even if they r a little chunkier...!!!!! Also i believe that they r being a little judgemental. They r talking to u like all that matters is ur looks....and they shoodnt!! ur insides is the most important thing that matters!!! =) And if ur working ur hardest at everything ur doing then they dont have any excuse to judge u around like that!!!!
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2006-07-06 12:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being pushed quite a bit harder than you should be like being called names is were the line wasd crossed. Your parents probably just want the best for you. If you talk to them and try and tell them they are pushing you too hard.
2006-07-06 12:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun...frist off im sorry that your parents don't realize the gift that they have.. there are a lot of parents out there worried about were there kids are and what type of drugs they may be on or what kida friends they are hangin' out with...secondly they need to get off your back and realize that you are not them....they should love you the way you are and stop pushing their own dreams off on you.im sorry that such a mart and wonderful young lady has to put up with such ignorace from her own parents....i wish you the best...love daisy
2006-07-06 13:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by crazy_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to a teacher or perhaps your cheerleading coach? I think you need an adult to help you with this, to talk to your parents on your behalf. Just print up what you wrote here, and show it to some adult you trust. Good luck, honey.
2006-07-06 12:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋