My cousin, who is oging into 6th grade, just found out her grandmother is in the hospital from kidney failure, or an absess on the pancreas or something etc. There is nothing the doctors can do. The doctors say she is too fragile to move to ICU. Both my cousin and her brother are at camp, and she is near hysteria, in tears and everything. I have sent her an e-mail saying how much I love her and how I'm praying for her, but I want to do something more. How can I console her?
2006-07-06 05:38:40 · 6 answers · asked by cowgirl91 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I live in Michigan and she lives in New Jersey. That's why I feel such a need to be there for her, because I cna't be there physically.
2006-07-06 05:46:50 · update #1
When My grandmother was dying the best advice anyone gave was me was that she was going to be in a better place. I know it didn't seem like much but then I started thinking about it. She would have no more pain, no more wanting physical positions, no more suffering, no more struggling to pay bills, no more loneliness, and best of all she would see her friends and family again at least this is what I believe. I know everyone has thier own beliefs. I guess what I am telling you is that just be a friend and listen to her. When she has questions then I would tell her to ask her parents or clergy men/women. Tell her to say her goodbyes now instead of waiting till the day she passes. That helped allot with the grieving process for me, it was nice to be able to tell her I loved her instead of praying she heard me and I knew for a fact that she did. I hope this helps you. BTW my Grangmother lived in Iowa and I live in Utah. My Grandmother has been gone now for 6 months and I could not get back there to physically say goodbye but we talked every day including the day she passed. I still get teary eyed when I think of her. Keep staying in touch with her you will help her through this.
2006-07-06 05:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by MasterMark 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That's nice of you to be there for her. Keep doing what you're doing. If you are anywhere near her, try stopping by to see her and take her out for lunch or for whatever she would like. If she just wants to sit and let it out, let her do that too. If you're not anywhere near her, keep in touch daily and ask her if there is absolutely anything else you can do to help her during this difficult time.
2006-07-06 12:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is comforting to know that a friend is near and thinking of her. She will have to be the next person to make a move. Be available and sensitive. Understand that she will need time and when she is ready to talk, she'll need someone to listen.
2006-07-06 12:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Wowzer-Bowzer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're doing is great. If you can call her. You are already there for her. Continue doing the emails and prayers. This will comfort her in her time of need.
2006-07-06 12:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by karma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard,,i just lost my grandmother almost 2 years ago,,it still hurts and im in my 30s...i dont know what to say to help her..but let her know that you are there for her when ever she needs you no matter how far apart you 2 are...
2006-07-06 12:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give your love, for your cousin.
2006-07-06 12:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋