We're in love, but its like a married couple relationship, and we're not even twenty yet! I'm sure that it will last but I really want to know how you know you're ready for the next step? Physically and mentaly. He's not pressuring me, I just feel like I need to step the relationship up a notch. It has no spice. Just lots of sugar.
Thanks to all that respond.
2006-07-06 05:02:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you'll know when you feel it and he'll feel it too, if not then he's not the one for you
2006-07-06 05:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by jada_24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be sure that it will last--feeling that way doesn't make it so. You cannot know the curves life is about to throw at you or the bumps that in the road ahead. Get married after you have both finished college, tech school, or whatever you are doing beyond high school, and both have stable jobs. Financial problems are the number one cause of arguments, strife, and divorce in young newlyweds. It is hard to be lovey-dovey when you can't pay the light bill.
How much of a wrinkle would it put into your life if you have a child or two before you can even finish your schooling? Birth control does NOT always work in the first place and most people fail to use it correctly a lot of the time anyhow.
2006-07-06 05:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by bigrob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An awful lot depends on what you mean by "next step". If you mean holding hands at recess ... go for it. If you mean having sex ... I would advise that you wait for awhile.
I can tell by the "we kiss and say I love you" comment that you're not yet twenty. My guess is that you're well short of that.
Love is much more involved than just being able to say it. I can remember kids in grade school saying it ... and they were sure not ready for any serious "next step".
To be honest, the fact that you asked this question in the manner in which you did tells me that you are definitely *not* ready for sex. Give your relationship more time to develop and/or wait for a little more experience in life before making that sort of decision.
Good luck, honey ... but wait awhile before taking that "next step".
2006-07-06 05:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force anything to happen that's not supposed to happen. I never understood this until I found the one. My mother used to always tell me not to try to force anything and I never realized that that's what I was doing. If there's no "spice" there's a reason. And it's not because you're just not doing something right. You'll know you're ready for the next step because you're both ready and you're both going there together. It's not rocket science. For some reason, when it's the one, you just both know and both go there.
I would say to just trust God and place your relationship in His hands. He will take it where it needs to go if you let Him. If you don't let Him, you'll just continue to try to figure it out on your own and just continue to not know what's next. It's not fun that way at all...
2006-07-06 05:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes spice can cause severe stomach upset whilst a little sugar or honey settles it down. Life is not a series of steps that you take one by one, otherwise when you get upstairs there is nowhere else to go, unless it is into the loft and that is a dirty dusty place. Take your time, you have all the time in the world, enjoy your present love, for when it gets more serious, it means that you have grown up and have to take the responsibilities that go with the territory....... Good luck and God bless.........
2006-07-06 05:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off how long have you two been together? You have to take everything into consideration. You both are still young don't rush into anything. But before you go to the next step you both need to open and honest about everything. And if you both agree then you should go for it and be happy with your decision.
Best of Luck to you both!
2006-07-06 07:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by tot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not ready until ur married, there's no guarantees, your too young, and he's only a bf. How do u know it's we? even if he says so, what do u know about about married couples? Not till ur married period. It's gonna fiz out I bet, u don't need to spice it up. That's slutty. U need FUN, there's plenty of date ideas. U do not know this person yet.
2006-07-06 05:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same relationship. My bf is like a gentleman, he doesnt fall in love with just anyone and he chose me. We are so happy. What me and him chose was to wait until marriage just to make sure that our love is real. I know that the hormones are raging and going crazy but if he loves you and you love him the right time will come just have patience. Love is patience, Love is kind.
2006-07-06 05:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by Lilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wellll i dont know what to tell u but i could say something well u dont have to have sex to show ur partner u love them okay i did and mine left me after 2 weeks but i now have one that i am in love with and we have not been 2gethere for years we been 2gethere for 4 mounths and we have not had sex but we have talkewd about it but u no how that is lol* but anyways if u really think ur ready to have sex with this guy then go ahead and do it but if ur not then dont sex can wait okay think really hard about what ur goping to do kk
2006-07-06 05:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the subsequent step is to develop into reliable acquaintances. No courting will very last except you're reliable acquaintances. i imagine sex is too quickly for you. you're in ordinary words 13 and choose time to discover yourselves.
2016-11-01 07:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When u meet ur boy next time, just take his hands, place one of his on ur boob and the other at ur bottom. Then the boy take the rest of the course.
2006-07-06 05:06:11 · answer #11 · answered by anbukkarasan_c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋