How do you break the ice with a girl who you dont know, but would like to ask out? Especailly if you're a shy guy!?
2006-07-06 04:53:53 · 31 answers · asked by Bucaneer Bill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Icebreakers mint. =)
2006-07-06 04:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all, i hope you don't look like your atavar. i mean, most girls don't like the whole pirate look. anyway, the way to approach a girl is to be friends with her. don't approach her with the "i wanna do you" kind of way or "i want this to turn into more than a friendship". just approach her as a friend. if you're at school, ask if you can study together. stuff like that. keep it friendly. there's nothing she can say negatively to that. that way, if she rejects you, she rejected your friendship not anything else. once you are firneds with her, then you can turn that friendship into a fire. but take it slowly. i know you said you're shy. but this is your opportunity to practice not being shy.
2006-07-06 11:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by chapped lips 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the approach all depends on the lady. Some girls like different things. But one thing I do know is that if a guy comes up to me, I don't want to find out later that that guy is someone totally different. Just be yourself. And don't be out to get in her pants right away. That always helps. Truly want to get to know her. Just take a deep breath and step up. We really do understand how hard it is for a guy to approach you. But don't be pushy.
2006-07-06 11:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by hope m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're shy, here's a thought. Buy her a drink from across the bar. If she accepts it, wait for a minute or two then go over there and thank her for accepting it. It is an easy conversation starter, and she knows you didn't dose her drink. Sometimes it works, sometimes you are out 7 bucks.
2006-07-06 12:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by benjamin_nussdorf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do, don't use a pickup line. You may be more successful if you use something common to both of you in any given situation.
For example,in school ask her opinion of a particular teacher. or in the street for directions to a particular place. The idea is to start a conversation with an innocent topic and take it from there.
2006-07-06 11:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself thats who shes gonna like in the long run anyway dont use pickup lines just have a normal conversation once you get a feel of what shes into it will be easier to hold a conversation.
2006-07-06 12:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by candidworker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get in contact with her firstly, casually. Drop by say "Hello" and introduce yourself. Become someone familiar to her, try to hang out at every possibilty you have. Try not to by shy, be confident, because if your shy you can convey the wrong message to your desired woman, so be confident and friendly and I am sure you will have great success!
2006-07-06 11:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Like a dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on your objectives.
if you just want some tail, then yes, there is a wrong way. you gotta be smooooth and confident... but a lot of girls know what's going on when it comes to that kind of stuff, so if you get shot down, it doesn't neccessarily mean you are doing anything wrong. they probably just weren't looking for a quick one.
but if its a girl you think you might be interested in, then just be yourself. if she doesn't go for it, then she just wasn't your type. you wouldn't want to be with a girl who didn't appreciate you for who you are anyway :)
2006-07-06 11:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by untysteph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough being shy! (I'm there, I know...but it's different for us chicks)...basically, you just have to screw up your courage and approach her...start with the basic "hello" and go from there...don't take a "no thanks" personally though, especially from a stranger...you two don't know one another so there's no emotional investment and no reason to feel hurt...just smile, say "thanks for your time" and move on...
Some conversation starters would be things relative to where you met (does she go there often? does she like "x" that they have? is she familiar with the local area? does she know a good coffee shop/burger joint/pizza place/etc?) stuff like that can get you going, and maybe lead to further chat if she's receptive...
2006-07-06 12:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say to approach her in a calm manner and just say hey my name is and ask her hers. If she replies ask where she is from or how she is doing. Hopefully the conversation will take off from there and you can ask her out to dinner or a movie or even to coffee in the beginning just to talk.
2006-07-06 11:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by FullofQuestions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to her and compliment what ever quality it is that attracted you to her. And then introduce yourself. Ask her if she might want to get together sometime for drinks or a movie, and ask her for her phone number. Then call her the next day to set up a date.
2006-07-06 14:02:17 · answer #11 · answered by whatdoiknow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋