I have lost the desire to be intimate in my relationship and my boyfriend isn't pleased and is threatening to end it.
2006-07-06 04:50:51 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to move on.
2006-07-06 04:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by ndmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships ebb & flow; sometimes the tide is out for a while & then it returns stronger than before! Intimacy goes through these phases, too & it's really OKAY (... that's something all the love songs & stories don't mention...)
Sometimes when we're under a lot of pressure, stress or just feeling emotionally "off", us women tend to loose the desire to be intimate. Maybe you're feeling emotionally distant from your boyfriend at the moment? You'll need to examine this carefully. My guess is that even though you've momentarily lost your desire, you actually care about the relationship, or else you wouldn't have reached out for help.
What concerns me is that your boyfriend is threatening to end your relationship because of this! Someone who truly cares about ALL of you would be interested in taking the time to ask you what's going on in your life to cause this & whether HE can do something that will re-ignite the passion in your relationship. It's a PARTNERSHIP & you are meant to work this out together. Try understanding what's going on with you, then talk with him about it. If his attitude doesn't change, either your boyfriend is a) immature or b) too selfish to really care. In which case, you'll then get to choose what the next step in this "relationship" will be for you. Choose wisely - you're precious! :)
2006-07-06 05:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by rdsukh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with this man you have to work. All relationships needs work. There are ups and downs in all relationships - all the time. What are you looking for?
By the way; once you start thinking this you really are out - there is a process starting in your head. You are what you think, so you must follow your heart before wondering too much one the lacks of "edge" as you say.
2006-07-06 04:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discover why the "edge" is gone...do you typically feel a loss of interest after being with someone a while? Has either he or you changed in some way, or are outside influences affecting your desire to be with him? Do you want thinks to be back the way they were? If so, work on resolving whatever it was that caused you to lose interest...work together on getting that spark back...
2006-07-06 04:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear the phrase "keeping the spark alive"? That's what you need to do. If you truly care for this person and want to stay together, you're going to have to get creative and do things that you wouldn't normally do. That doesn't have to be sexual all the time either. Just go out and do fun spontaneous things as a couple. It will make your relationship more exciting.
2006-07-06 04:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many things to consider before movign on. How long have you two been together? Are you both in love with each other? Is the relationship worth saving? Are you on any meds..that may be causing your decrease in your sexual drive? Think about it before acting on it. Most of the time when that "spark" is no longer there....it's time to move on...but....there is always a chance that - that spark can be reignited. Best of luck!
2006-07-06 04:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might be a deeper problem why your losing intimacy in your relationship. Did something happen between you and your boyfriend? Try talking to him about the issue and try to find root of the problem- but if you know in your heart no way salvage this relationship it's time to move on.
2006-07-06 04:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by Like a dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf (or you for that matter) should never threaten to end your relationship for ANY reason, let alone for not being "in the mood" . . . His attitude should be that he needs to be EVERYTHING you deserve in a man and a bf . . . because it IS what you deserve . . . and if he is sincere and persistant in it, you will feel that desire to be with him and to please him again. You should talk to him about it, because if his attitude doesn't change, it should be YOU that does the ending (you aren't getting what you deserve, otherwise you would have the desire!)
2006-07-06 04:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lee C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With continous use the sharpest of the knife loses its edge.You have to polish it to keep it in good shape.
Give your relationship a new direction.Try something different. Do something weired. Develop a common hobby.
If nothing helps, pray togetther but don't give up dear.
It takes years to build a relationship but you can end it in moment.
2006-07-06 04:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your relationship on the road. Get out together, do things with your friends together, double date, go dancing. See how the other half lives, don't stay cooped up together as a life style, you will get bored, you need to try on your coupleness on the world and see how it fits. Develop couple power!
If all he wants to do is have sex then you are being used, let him go.
2006-07-06 04:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by dhebert244 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a get away. That does not mean that you should leave. Maybe you need to spend a lot of quality time with yourself. If you begin to miss being with that other person, then you know it is meant to be. If during this self-time you become further apart, then you know that it is time to move on.
2006-07-06 04:55:30 · answer #11 · answered by J. Brigante 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋