i don't know how much more i can take?

Question

my husband hit me again today this time it was different it was not my arm this time it was fist in my chin 1 time then I hit back then he hit me again in my chin the he hit me on arm 2 time was I wrong to hit back he hit before it use to be every 6 months but now it going to every month does it mean it getting worse i scared if i leave he take my son

he not leave a mark

Answer 1

Its getting worse.

Let me tell you life is not easy. And either is leaving. especially when you have a kid. I grew up with an abusive father and he beat my mom in front of 4 kids. My two sisters where real young so they don't remember but my bother was older than me. I had to call the police all the time. it was rough times let me tell you. I would always fight back whether it was me or my mom, ALWAYs fight back!

Time past he went to jail for years for that and other reasons. But they are together still. I don't like it but as long as he doesn't hit her, its alright with me cause you can't help who you love. And there has been times where his anger gets to him.

But the biggest thing is my brother, he is abusive to every girlfriend he has had. He grew up with that longer than me and You need to think about your son. Do you want him to think that this is ok. My mom didn't do anything about it so my brother grew up thinking it was ok. Me however i saw it from a different view because i am a girl.

But what about your son. He should be #1 do what you believe is right, He is gowing to grow up thinking everthing in his surroundings is ok. Now what do you want to be done? think about it and do it.

Answer 2

u first need to realize that as a human being no one has the right to abuse u in any form let alone hit u. second u should know that now u are a big girl and can take care of your self and there are many out there that can and will help u including the law. call the police and a womens shelter and ask them from help. do it smartly and when ur husband is not around. they will tell u if u have to leave with ur son or if they can just come and arrest ur husband and keep him away from u. remember that being brave is to face ur fears and do the best for ur self and ur son. u should respect urself enough and get out of this situation AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. this is of course a very emotional situation but at this minute u need to use ur brain to the best as u can and i am very sure u will find the perfect solution if u want to. get away babes.

Answer 3

If you can leave with your son while he is gone, do it. That is ridiculous. He's treating you like you're his child, which still wouldn't be right to hit you in the chin. Get out. You and your son don't deserve that. If you need to make a police report so he can't get your son, do it. Just go where he can't find you.

Answer 4

Don't take any more! Of course you were not wrong to hit him back, but of course he should have never hit you in the first place. All the things you are afraid to do are what you should do. Call for help NOW. Click here for a list of numbers: http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/ovc/help/numb.htm . If you call the police and he is arrested and he serves time in jail, that will set a precedent for you to be awarded custody of your child. He needs help. Stop keeping the secret. I'm praying for your strength and protection, Sweetie. Sorry you have to go through this. Be singleminded and get help NOW.

Answer 5

You need to leave, it's not going to stop and by your sentance it has already gotten worse. Worse it could start being directed at your child. I know you don't want that. There are all kinds of shelters and women's crisis centers here in Vegas. Look in your phone book call them. The one's here that will not only help you get out, they give you a place to live, help with jobs, and protection for you and your child. They will help you with legal and court things, clothing everything to get out on your own.

You have options you just have to be brave and take the leap. It will be scarey at first but not as scarey as wondering everyday if your hubby is going to hit you today. Life is way to short to live in constant fear of someone that is suppose to love you. Do yourself and your child a favor and leave. How good is it for this little boy to see his mommy getting hit? What is that teaching him about how to treat others? Please leave, just have faith it will be better!

Answer 6

you know what there is nothing to say to women like you you always have an excuse as to why you get beat on my only problem is the child i feel sorry for him you are choosing this he is not nobody should have to tell you to leave an abusive relationship if you are not smart enough to know that than oh well take a couple punches for the cause and then you have the nerve to scold yourself saying you were wrong to hit back like it is OK for him to hit you and most of all you are allowing him to teach your son that hitting on a woman is OK and that she will stand around and take it

Answer 7

You need to take your son and leave. Go to your family or a close friend. If you have bruises, go to a doctor and have them documented. You will not lose your son. You need to leave for your son's sake. What kind of man will he grow up to be if this is his example? Be strong. You may actually think you love your husband, but ask yourself if you respect him. I hope not. Love is an action and his actions show hatred, not love. Please don't allow yourself to be abused any longer. Someday when you and your son are settled (and the ex is paying child support) you may find someone who truly knows how to show love. I hope so. If not, being alone and raising your son into a good man is more important than anything. Good luck. I'll pray for you.

Answer 8

Please do not stay with this man. You get the law out there and pack your stuff. Go stay with family or friends. There is also places for battered women you can go. You can make it on your own. You do not need a man, especially, one that is beating you. He will eventually, if he is not now, will start hitting your children. Get out before there is another child involved. My mom and all four of us children was abused, mentall and physically by our father. She stayed with him for 36 years. She didn't think she could make it on her own. When I turned 14, I told her I had enough and I was leaving. So we left together. It was tough, but it had to be done. If not, I think my father would kill one of us or her. Or she would have eventually took her own life, because she tried several times. She jumped out of a 18 wheeler (my dad was a truck driver) going down the road. There was a guy behind them. My dad stopped and so did the guy. The guy went over to her and asked if she was okay. My dad kicked her and said yes she is fine. The guy called the law. My mom would not tell the police anything. Don't do this to your children. It is awful. To be a child and see this going on. It mentally and physically scares you for the rest of your life. I am taking a antidepressant now, because of that and my present problems with my family. Not my dad, I haven't seen him in over 11 years or so. But please get out. No matter what it takes.

Answer 9

If someone starts hitting you, they have no respect for you. This will only get worse, protect your son because he will be next. Make plans to move on, you and your son deserve better. You both deserve to be loved, not someones punching bag. Your husband needs help, but he will probably only see this when he hits rock bottom and loses the things he loves.

Answer 10

You and your son need to go to a women's shelter immediately. Get a police report and/or pictures of the bruising. The shelter will be able to help you file a complaint or charges. You need to LEAVE and take your son with you. He isn't going to change any time soon and yes it could get a lot worse before it gets any better.