My sister married a drunk and had kids, then divorced him and married another drunk, but everyone in the family says he is a little better than her first husband because he will work a little and do a little more things for the kids than their father. My other sister has a 12 year old niece. She let the 12 year old niece spend the night with my other sister, because she has a 10 year old. Well, the drunk got drunk that night. They said he passed out in a car, and someone woke him up. He went inside where the girls were. They were in the living room. The 12 year old was swaying back and forth in the desk chair. He went over to her, strattled her and hopped up and down on top of her and said something like "Is this how it's done". My family says he was drunk and mad. Making excuses for him. I will not have nothing to do with him, but the rest of the family does, but I am left out of the family because of this. They chose him over me. This is not all that he has done. Is this wrong of me
2006-07-06 04:24:58 · 9 answers · asked by Xena 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Shouldn't my family tell him he needs to leave so they can spend time with me? Or am I being selfish? I didn't get to spend any time with them this holiday. They didn't even seem to care. I don't think he should get away with being a pervert. The 12 year olds father should have killed him. What if he does something else to her that is alot worse? My family said he wasn't allowed, then they turn around and say if he apologies, it's fine. So they invited him over, and partied with him. Yes, gave him a beer. I feel like my family are the nuts, but they make me feel like I am. I am having to take antidepressants because of them. I tell them how I feel and they say that I am hurting the family. They don't care that they are driving me insane. So should I just wash my hands of them. I am alot happier without all their drama.
2006-07-06 04:32:19 · update #1
You are not in the wrong here. This guy molested your neice, even though he was fully clothed. At the very least it's child endangerment to let this guy hang around!! Stick to your guns, this sicko shouldn't be around and your family is dumb to let him. Drunk or not, that's no excuse for what he did.
2006-07-06 05:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl - if you KNOW it is wrong then do something about it! I can tell you from experience. When that girl grows up will she have a healthy attitude toward a relationship or will it be just as dysfunctional (if not worse) than her family now? I am not an advocate for Child Protective Services, but if no one will listen now - who will listen later when or if she is molested? Will it be said by the family that she enticed him? She is a child, adults should KNOW BETTER! CPS involvement could be as simple as monitoring the family with different counseling issues needed for all (dad-AA or NA, mom-AA or NA or Codependency, children-counseling), they will also help with transportation, and just being there. If more is needed then they will be more child aggressive as needed.
2006-07-06 11:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mom_of_7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing absolutely the right thing. You owe it to your children to protect them and keep them away from this guy. It's probably easier for your family to blame you than to deal with the fact that they definitely have an alcoholic on their hands, and probably a pedophile too. Sad. You would be well served to talk with a therapist to help you work through this. Good luck.
2006-07-06 11:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by Celticlassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG HE DID WHAT TO THE 12 YEAR OLD????? your family should not let being drunk be an excuse seriously that was wrong and he should go to jail for it
2006-07-06 11:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to the two girls that this happened to. I mean a real heart to heart. You need to ask them if this has ever happened before I can almost gurantee they will tell you yes. you need to step in and be the adult here and do what is right for those girls. I know you are trying but staying away from them is not helping they need you right know be thier for them.
2006-07-06 13:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by girlpower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong of you ? Gawd, no! In fact, you rock! It doesn't matter if he was drunk or not - he abused those girls and there is NO EXCUSE for it. The law would not excuse him and neither should you or the family. I'd keep my children away from him.
2006-07-06 11:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, to bad you can't pick your family. They sound like real winners!
2006-07-06 11:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by coconut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm always too lazy to read this!
sorry
2006-07-06 11:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by sillyboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm..
2006-07-06 11:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by blazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋