At a fancy resturaunt and everyone gets all dressed up. Call me crazy but that is so uncomfortable. Sat I want to go out with this girl during the day, She is watching the World cup so I figured lets go to a sports bar dress casual watch the Champoinship have a few beers some food and chill. Its a date but it's not a lot of pressure you know I don't want to come of as cheap I'll pay for everthing no big deal. Is that a don't in the dating world I guess it all depends on her huh? Well weigh in anyway.
2006-07-06 04:22:37 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have to agree with you there my friend, first date should as relaxed as possible, its a first date so obviously theres going to be nerves, i went to my local with my gf on our first date, nice , relaxed not too quiet, but we were able to talk and get tp know each other
2006-07-06 04:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO! Not all first dates have to be fancy. If a girl really likes you then she'll be okay with watching the championship at home with you sitting next to her. Chilling and enjoying eachother's company. So taking her to the sports bar is a nice extra touch. Just make sure that you dont get too lost in the game or crowd. Remember that night is about her and you!!! She in that bar is the most important person for that time being. Dont overwhelm her and scare her away, just evry once in a while, like at a commercial start up a conversation. Time is all we really have and dont have in this world. So now that you have to chance to have her time for a little while, keep it close and return it with a little piece of you...
2006-07-06 11:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by adwn2erthgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A first date (as well as second, third, ad infinitum) can be whatever you want it to be...there is no "code" or rule...if you want a picnic on the beach, then have one...you want beer at a sportsbar, then do that...
Dressing up can be fun, but it does add some pressure...folks are more likely to be themselves and be more relaxed, when they're not fiddling with their clothes or worried about not being in comfortable attire, etc...
My vote is for something more low-key and casual...you can always do the fancy-dress-up thing if the first few dates go well and y'all have established that 'connection'....
2006-07-06 11:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Times are changing, all first dates don't have to be in fancy restaurants.
Having a date at a casual place where you can both be yourselves sounds like a great place to start. The fact that you are taking her out so she can watch the world cup is a plus. Good for you! Hope all goes well for you!
Good luck!
2006-07-06 11:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by mama_wizard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No man no fancy restaurants. Go to some public place (not movies) just so you can get to know the person. Also the public space serves good when the date turns out to be not what youre looking for you can just leave. Do something casual I say. Personally i just take them for a little walk in a park, to see fireworks, ice rink something simple you know. This way you can have intelligent discussions that will let you know whether or not you should continue on with the relationship.
Also, most women will hate me for saying this, dont pay for everything. This shows weakness in the sense that you have to buy youre way to her with money. Personally i say pay only for extras, for example pay for your movie tickets individually and then pay a popcorn for both of you. Just dont overdo things and be yourself always.
2006-07-06 11:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is what you like to do then DO IT. If that is what she likes then she will love it...sounds like a good match up.
But if she likes the fancy resturants and you decide to do that and you don't really like to...then seriously how long would you want to carry on a relationship doing things you don't like to do? Basically putting on a front of a person you are not really like. So do what is fun and comfortable for you and if she is the right girl it will click and you won't have to pretend. A nice dinner is good sometimes, but not all the time.
Good luck!
2006-07-06 11:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you treat her with respect and do something that both of you are interested in, then I don't think how much money you spend or how formal the occasion is will have any affect on mood of the date. If she does see these things as important, than she is looking for someone to take care of her only, not an equal partner to share her life with.
2006-07-06 11:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by GreaseMonkeySteve 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your date can be anything you want it to be. I am 35 and my last first date was at a baseball game wearing shorts and Yankee t-shirt. Be yourself...dress nice, but casual. this one sounds like nice jeans and a short-sleeve button down untucked (and CLEAN!) would do the trick. Iron your shirt and don't do sandals yet. The venue is 100% up to you and the impression you make wil be based more on cleanliness and courtesy, than collars and slacks.
2006-07-06 11:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah, it doesn't have to be fancy and all that. I agree it's uncomfortable. And the last thing i want to feel on a first date is to feel uncomfortable.. First date is supposed to be the getting to know stage, it should be fun! Fancy restaurant dates are reserved for special occasions (valentines, anniversary)
2006-07-06 11:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by Black_Rabbit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the girl's perspective-- I'd rather go on a date like you just mentioned. Not too fancy and all that. It should be relaxing and fun. I'd rather a guy take me out rockclimbing or fishing rather than to a fancy restaurant. But, it's up to girl, whatever she likes doing just go for it.
2006-07-06 11:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Bee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a great first date to me. Go for it. First dates should be casual and low-pressure. Great idea you have.
I also think just hanging out at Starbucks over coffee can be a good first date.
2006-07-06 11:25:30 · answer #11 · answered by locolady98 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋