how do i focus on school + being successful, and not care about my loneliness?

Question

i want to make lots of money when i'm older and be very successful. i live in a small town and don't really have a lot of friends. i'm lonely a lot, but i don't really like hanging out with people because all they want to do is have sex and drink and smoke pot. how can i forget about my loneliness and stay focused on school, piano, singing, and my goals in life? because success in my career and in school is what i really want. but my loneliness can get in the way, even though i don't really have a desire to go party. it just makes me feel like a loser. how can i stay motivated to do well in school, practice my piano and singing, and be successful and not feel like a loser for not partying like everyone else?

Answer 1

God is here for you he wants to love you and fill that lonleness

Answer 2

I'm glad you're not simply doing what everybody else does! They are probably just as lonely as you....and hiding behind the drugs & drink to convince themselves they are not!

First, I don't think the answer is not to "not care about" your loneliness. You won't solve the problem by getting more involved in school and more focused on success. You will just get more lonely, and it won't go away. You deal w/ loneliness by addressing that problem directly, and this will bring even more satisfaction to being successful!

What you need are some good friends - I know, easy to say, more difficult to do, right? Well, how about starting by doing something to meet other people who play music or sing? Perhaps you can join a choir, or attend a piano concert where you can rub shoulders with other fellow music lovers in the audience? Musicians love to collaberate!

There are other people who undoubedly share your goals. Look for them. Ever consider visiting a college campus, or taking a summer class? How about the library? Do they have book clubs or weekly meetings to discuss topics of interest?

Do an Internet search which lines up with one of your goals. Perhaps there are organizations or mailing lists you can join which bring like-minded people together to discuss your interests and encourage each other in their goal seeking.

Thomas Edison was quoted as saying "genius is 99% perspiration and 1% inspiration". You need that inspiration to be truly successful, and that has to come from outside of yourself. So don't try to forget about your lonliness - put yourself in a position to meet people who share your passions. You'll help them be less lonely too!

Hope this helps. I wish you well!

Answer 3

Do just what you are doing! Aren't there other people involved in piano and singing? Are there music clubs in your school? You can always join the church choir or offer to play piano in church, this will help you meet other folks who know that there is more to life than sex!

You aren't a loser, you are FUTURE minded and want to make the right choices now. Know that you are NOT the only lonely person out there, and sometimes we have to go through parts of life where others will think we are uncool for being interested in school and music. YOu don't have to party becuase everyone else does.

I was in your same shoes! But once you get out of high school and can go off to college you will find more like-minded people in choral groups, or the orchestra, or in your classes. You are heading in the right direction.

And you'll get to come back to your HS reunion and show off your successful career - and the fact that you didn't have a baby at 16, you got to focus on making a good life for yourself! This feels like a really hard time in your life, but it WILL pay off, I promise! I am really proud of you!!!

Answer 4

Your focus is wonderful. Keep that in your goal and
put up some positive reminders so you can see them.
You could try different activities that your community
offers and that way you'll be able to make new friends
A social life is only going to boost your self-esteem.
Moving forward is the best, keep up with what your
doing right now and play your faviorite songs on the
piano when your feeling alittle blue and you'll see
that the practise will have you singing in no time.
Your a positive role model for not wanting to party
and do drugs. A healthy life style is terrific. Way to go..

Answer 5

I don't know how old you are but I assume you are in high school. This is very difficult. I felt this way into college. Looking back on it I think the key is to get involved in activities that are school related that will allow you to meet people who are more like you.
This means you have to put yourself out there and get involved in clubs or sports. That was difficult for me.

Staying focused isn't an option. If you want to be successful you have to stay focused and get to the master level at whatever it is you want to do. If you lose focus even for a few months that could put you behind in your goals.

Answer 6

hmmm.. you may feel lonely right now but when people see your success, they wouldnt want to leave you alone! and you'll get tired of them... to make good use of your time, read good books, start a weblog (such as xanga) to intereact with people on issues that matter to you.... this way you will be able to filter out the people you really want to have any dialogue with... make just a couple of good friends that have same interests as yours and hang out with them at malls or arrange walks, movies and just plain sleepovers .. or even watch movies at each other's place... keep working hard at school and soon in college you wont even have time to think about loneliness... partying does not increase your IQ and its not the best predictor of your success either! so dont worry too much about the superfluous/flashy but fake stuf so much! best wishes...

Answer 7

To be successful, it should require hard work, its a fact. School should be fulfilling and happy. Its up to you how you can mix school and staying out. You just need to focus on disciplining your self to manage your time. when you need to hang out or do music, finish up quickly what you need in school and not jumping out before you completed your school work, Then!!!!!!! you can hang out and enjoy. You should enjoy school and being a teenager. individual sports like swimming, tennis, running and others will help you. Yoga will also help or perhaps martial arts will keep you fit and relax.

You can only say that you are successful when you are happy and contented not on what material or money you gathered for you. there are lots of rich people who have everything but deep inside they are unhappy.

Live a life of hard work, contentment and self-discipline and you will be more successful and effective to people.

Answer 8

Easy. All you have to do is focus on what's most important to you and go for it. Don't let others pressure you to be someone who you are not. Live above the influence. Friendship is a many splendid thing and it shouldn't go to waste, but school controls your future and who you will end up with by accident, or on purpose.

Answer 9

Being focused on school and career doesn't mean you have to forget about having friends. You're telling me there isn't one person in your school who *doesn't* party? I doubt that. Try and make friends - be bold! Bravery in being able to chat up strangers is a skill that would serve you well in any career path as well.

Answer 10

life is yours live to fullest no need to feel lonely,enjoy school,have fun,look for true friends.you can even mail and chat with .u will surely forget your loneliness.

Answer 11

theres not much that cures lonliness besides pouring your soul into something. Just do your best is all you can really do. When I feel lonely I normally study and clean my house alot.