been hurt many times, been abuse in every way imaginable...which cause her not to really associate with people, been working since she was 16, raising a child since she was 18, the best way she can....but yet she hasnt been able to find a good man who loves and respect her and wants her for her....until she mets a man who is 19 yrs older than her, and he's like a gift from God....keep in mind she doesnt like young men and never did....so why should the age difference matter if we are happy.....should we pursue our relationship even further, or just continue to date and see how it turns out, or end it all together?
2006-07-06 03:55:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From what I am reading it sounds like this is the person she is happy with. It all depends on them. Did they just meet? Is she attaching to him because she is attaching to what she never had? Can she step back and look at the relationship with clear eyes? If she is happy and he is happy and of course the child is happy, then its all for the best.
2006-07-06 04:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you two continue to date. because she has been hurt and although you are her "gift from God", she might get scared. She might think you're too perfect and that there has to be something wrong. and since that is not out in the open it must be a big deal. This ideal is common, but can be countered. Just take it slow, show her you're not there to break her. but to be there for her, a support system as well as a boyfriend. Take interest in the child she has been raising, not too much that she becomes jealious but enough to show that family is important. She is really vulnerable right now, excepting a man into her life. A life that she has becomed accustomed to. Her "Safety Net". And anything to big or exciting might scare her away. So my advice is that you just be yourself and be there for her, and when she is ready to go further she will let you know!! good luck!!
2006-07-06 11:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by adwn2erthgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people think because a person is 18 or 19 that they are not mature. This is not true, maturity does not coming with age. It is not something that is automatic. If he is mature, ready to step up for you and your child then give him a chance. The two of you need to have an open talk about what each of you want in the future. If you are looking for a family man and he just wants a girlfriend then you are both are different places in life and it won't work out. You both need to be on the same page in order for this to go on. Talk to him, talk to yourself about what do you want, is he ready for this? Are you? What about your child, what life do you want for him/her?
2006-07-06 11:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by DutchApplePie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age difference only matters when one person is a minor and the other is over 18. In this case, it doesn't matter so long as it doesn't matter to either one of you. If you're happy, go with it. Best of luck!
2006-07-06 10:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are not going to be interested in men your age and they will not be interested in you because you have a baby so you are in a different place in life. This man may treat you like gold because he values your youth and beauty but will he be there down the road? Only time will tell. I would say to you from this point on, enjoy the good things life gives you but don't count on any of them being there forever.
2006-07-06 11:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A large age difference can be a tough issue. (Been there-done that.) Still, it does not mean that it HAS to be a problem. You are both adults. If he treats you right, makes you happy and you want to be with him, why should you not be??? Will age be an issue? Maybe. Lots of things MIGHT be issues. Success will be determined by your mutual ability to overcome ALL issues. Good luck!
2006-07-06 10:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is nothing but a number as long as your happy go for it
PS:::move into-gather before you marrie cause you never know how a person is in till you lived with them good luck i like older men too
2006-07-06 11:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common dude....How does age matter...Life is short spend it with the person that matter, makes a difference and someone you enjoy with.
2006-07-06 11:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dezzire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep going with it, see how it turns out. Who cares about age, so long as you both dont.
2006-07-06 10:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he truely loves you and you love him then go for it. My husband is 10 years older than me. I wish you luck.
2006-07-06 10:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by hatingmsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋