i slept with a guy on new years eve really bad really stupid but i had not had sex for 1 year was n the verge of having a nervous breakdown had been severely bullied at work? I think he knows i dont normally do that type of think bevcasue it was not amazing at all in fact a bit uncomfortable ithink we were botha bit lonely and seeking comfort it does happen right? He was really in to me my work got the better of me i got really stressed out cant explain felt like everyone was against me strange but true...i have tried to apologise he wont have it yet when we are out he keeps on starring at me and keeping an eye on me to see if i am with anyone else what does this mean i am really atracted to him? But surely if he was that in to me he would make a move back ...men are the hunters arent they? initially on new years he was frightened to come up to me...he said i scarred him well if thats the truth why apprach me...please can you help me diffuse a very confused situation.
2006-07-06 03:45:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy you are dealing with is a shy type and so make a move yourself, I am sure it will work since he seems to be interested in you too. There was no need of you apologising for the sex you had with him since you both needed it and both enjoyed it at that moment. Give yourselves a chance to love each other.
2006-07-06 03:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The obvious advice is to talk to this guy. Tell him about being upset, lonely etc and how it was a mistake, a quick fix which didn't work.
It could be possible that the guy can't really tell the difference between sex and love, and sees the New Years one-off as an acceptance of him and a committment of affection.
The guy is obviously as confused as you are and again I just recommend the two of you sit over a coffee and lay all the cards on the table.
Tell him what you wanted, how that ended up, what you want now and where he fits in. Then hopefully he will do the same and then you can both work out where to go from here.
Be very candid and straightforward with him, avoiding issues will only make it all worse.
Good luck
2006-07-06 03:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by KENNY G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not meaning to sound rude, but is it possible that you are looking for the wrong type of guy. I looked at some of the other questions that you have posted, and all of them are about relationships. From the way these questions are asked, it sounds like you are always making yourself out to be a victim. A guy wants to hear what is wrong, and wants to try to help you fix it, but if there is something all the time, he just gets worn out. (ok, that was for the previous questions that you have asked.) For this question, I would just say that you should not worry about it. If this guy wants to talk to you, then he will, if this guy wants to accept your apology, then great... otherwise, don't worry, because you both made the decision to do what you did, so why is there only one person apologizing? If this guy keeps on staring at you, that does not mean that you are attracted to him, t usually means that he is attracted to you.... though I am not sure that that is the best way for him to handle it. I cannot help you diffuse the situation, I can only give you the information that I already have.
2006-07-06 03:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by [insert name here] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't have to be confusing. Do you like him? If so, tell him. Do you wonder if he likes you? If you don't know why don't you ask him?
I am continually amazed that people come on here and ask complete strangers for advice on their romantic lives, yet they won't talk directly to the person who may (or may not) be the object of their affections. Just talk to the guy and find out what's up!
2006-07-06 03:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's shy. I don't quite understand if you like him or not??? <
2006-07-06 03:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't bother with him!! he sounds like hard work and a bit odd.why did you apologise? you seem like a nice lass & the right man will show his face, just keep an eye out & don't settle just for the first 1 to come along. "happy hunting"
2006-07-06 04:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by gun.slinger19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from your rambling it appears as though both you and he are a bit neurotic. Sort out your feelings, clear your head, and move on with your life. Right now you are trying to make your life into a soap opera...stop it!
2006-07-06 03:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by lucid_anomaly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all ...........................to the woman above me you know who you are! dont be such an uptight bi$%^ ok with that being said .........just stay away from that guy if hes "keeping an eye on you" thats just strange. do you like him? as long as you dont let it get to you and just work and get paid how cares im sure you can get any man you want.
2006-07-06 03:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by deek72dm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time try to be brief. It's so irrritating to read such a long story. sorry honey!
2006-07-06 03:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lady_Marmalade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably feeling like you, shy, confused, not sure what to do... so get with him and dsicuss things and let him know its ok...
he probaly thinks he was crap in bed and you now hate him
2006-07-06 05:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋