My Dad is worth a lot of money, he is a financial adviser and has been for some years, him and my Mum split up about 5 years ago now and my Dad has just turned 60.
I have only recently found out that he is living with his new girlfriend who he hasn’t been seeing for that long but says he has known her for about 5 or 6 years.
She is in the same line of business as my Dad so she is anything but hard up money wise, however the issue I have with this is that she is 23 years younger then my Dad, and I’m really worried that she is only there for the money.
As I said, she has money of her own, but my Dad is worth a lot more then her(and most others), should I be worried and say something to him, or just let him be?
2006-07-06 03:44:53 · 20 answers · asked by London girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your Father is a much older and wiser man. Let him live his life. If she is out to get his money he will let her go. I'm sure he isn't foolhearted. Keep in communication with him, he'll appreciate that. Maybe they really are in love. It's hard to see your parents with other people. But let it be and it'll all reveal itself. Trust in him.
2006-07-06 03:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by MzzandtheChuchuBees 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your father is a very handsome and good looking guy for his age then I would just let it be. However, if he is like a normal 60 year old and the woman is very attractive then I would maybe say something. You do not have to say that you dislike her or badmouth her, maybe just ask some questions about his money or try and talk him into securing it so she would not have direct access to it. If you badmouth her to him it could backfire on you and he may end up having an issue with you. Tread carefully, it will be a very delicate subject and you have to be careful not to hurt his feelings.
On the other hand, perhaps he knows she just likes his money and he doesn't care! Look at Anna Nicole Smith. Even though that was a slightly more exaggerated age difference, everyone including the old man knew what she was after. He, understandably did not mind as it got him a bit of fun before he went!
2006-07-06 10:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Showaddywaddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your worries, and 23 years is a big gap, but not unheard of. Unfortunately, even if you were more certain than you are that she is a gold-digger, you have to keep quiet. If you dad is in love with this woman and she makes him happy it will only make him angry with you if you start to be negative about her. Try and get on with her and get to know her, but also be vigilant as to any odd behaviour on her part - if she is a bad'un then you can only alert him with proof.
I hope it is genuine love for them both and that you all find a way to get on - you clearly care about your dad and that is lovely.
2006-07-06 10:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by peggy*moo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's tough. You would think she has another motive because of the huge age gap. I don't understand how someone 37 could be so attracted to a 60 year old person, no offense at all, but love is weird. I would think their lifestyles would be too different.
2006-07-06 10:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by bing722 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be. It is his hard earned money, not yours. As long as he can still function mentally, leave him alone. If you are afraid there won't be any left for you, ask him to start a trust fund for you. He sounds like a smart man, so he has probably already thought of that.
2006-07-06 10:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by laurelbush28762 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't necessarily be too concerned. I sometimes date men that are 20 years older than I am. It's nice to be around someone who is grounded and isn't wrapped up in partying all the time. I enjoy the company of older men.
2006-07-06 10:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by NIT503 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worrying won't change things... neither will telling him... except that you will make your potential new step mother angry at you and then when your father is gone you will end up in a very ugly figth over your inheritance... probably all you can do is hope that she loves him or that they will split up when he finds someone else younger than her twenty years from now!
life is messy...
2006-07-06 10:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by Klaatu Barada Nikto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad is 65 and recently split from his wife who is slightly older than me (30+ years age difference), everyone said she was after his money. They ended up married 20 years or so.
If he's happy be happy for him.
2006-07-06 10:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by sirdaz_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that since your dad has had the business sense to earn so much money throughout his career, he would certainly have been sharp enough to sort out his children's future financial security. Ask him!
2006-07-06 10:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by R.I.P. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she wants his money, maybe not.
unless she actually says something to you like, " i don't love anything about your Dad except his money", then, no, you should not say anything about this to him.
He is 60. he is old enough to know that this is a possibility.
2006-07-06 10:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋