well, for one thing i am one of those people, i have been with my fiance for eight years next weekend, we have been engaged for almost 7 of those years, we have a son who just turned six, and a daughter who will be one. i would like to know where you get off feeling sorry for my kids. they are smart, well behaved, and have everything they need. Im sure they are raised better than you were with comments like that. my fiance and i have already made a spiritual commitment, so at this point it is just a peice of paper and an announcement of marriage, and ten thousand dollars, but we decided to hold on getting married to put our kids needs first. so once again, who the hell are you?? i feel sorry for you.
2006-07-06 03:32:12 · 11 answers · asked by mrhw21 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I said the same thing congrats for standing up to nosey a#$ people like them.
2006-07-06 03:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by the nice one 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your rant seems to show you do care what other people think. Why do people care if you are not married? Maybe because depending on what country you live in, if one parent dies, without some proof they are your kids, somebody else can end up raising them. They might not get money from social security but your legal next of kin. While you might think that person will help your family out in the case of your untinly death, all too often this does not happen. Does it cost $10000+ to get married? No. You can just got to a Justices of the Peace and get it done. If this is not the case and not in your future plans then be sure to at least have a will, do not put it off until old age when the future of young childern are in place.
2006-07-06 03:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by DutchApplePie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged once..for about two years to the man I had my now 9 month old son with. We recently broke up because we both realized (or at least I did) that we could never make out relationship work out. We were planning on getting married but the baby came first. Now after that failed relationship, I don't plan on ever getting married. I don't see the point. My parents were hardly ever happy when I was growing up (they are happy now) and my ex's parents are divorced and one is remarried and the other is not. I have yet to see a successful relationship that ended in marriage that I can base my decision on. Sometimes its better not to get that peice of paper..all it leads to is a feeling like you have lost your freedom or that the person you are married to is your property. I don't want to feel either one
2006-07-06 03:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, I never read your first question, so this is all new to me. But by the way you are acting, it sounds as though you are dealing with some committment issues. maybe you are looking after your kid's interests...I don't know you, and I am not trying to judge you. If it is just a piece of paper, then just get married. It doesn't have to cost that much. My fiance and I have been together for four years and we are having a very simple wedding. I doubt it will cost more than $500.00. We are very simple people, and we know that we love each other and want nothing more than to be known as a married couple. But to each his own. good luck with everything.
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2006-07-06 03:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not get married? if it's just a piece of paper then why are you against it? and where does the 10 thousand dollars come in?
i dont really feel sorry for your kids, because it seems that they are loved, but dont you think that your kids parents being happily married would be good for them, i mean if you are happy and love your signifigant other, and plan on being together forever, then have a small shotgun wedding and involve the kids.
i personally think marriage is a blessed thing and if you're lucky enough to find your true love then you should make the commitment to be together forever.
2006-07-06 04:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by TN girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Charity starts at home and the parents are the trees and the children the seeds.If the tree is not healthy the seeds will not flourish.The parents must be first and then the children's needs.You are being a martyr if you put your children before you.After all the children look up to their parents for guidance.Do you want them to think they can have everything they want at any cost?I hope not.Life is not a bowl of cherries all the time!
2006-07-06 03:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, i think of approximately that lots, and am consistently rather satisfied that i'm as fortunate as i'm. yet that still does not mean my existence could not be better. this is rather unlucky and unfair that this way of super kind of youngsters stay like that, yet that's merely the hand they have been dealt. i became dealt a lots better hand, as have been maximum persons i understand...yet I nonetheless have an excellent kind of problems that i'm allowed to experience undesirable and be disillusioned approximately. In specific techniques, while in comparison with a number of my friends, i'm the girl residing in a cardboard field. Metaphorically conversing, of direction. i don't think of this is honest to assert they ought to all kill themselves.. EDIT And by ability of how, whilst I do experience depressed better than I ought to, i'm not what every physique might evaluate "emo".
2016-12-08 16:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by drona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people will read this and say:
I don't give a damn. I know I don't. More power to you!
2006-07-06 03:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Cali Dude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is great you are so committed to your kids i dont feel bad for kids
2006-07-06 03:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by donielle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was your QUESTION?? . . . cuz that was just a tirade . . .
2006-07-06 03:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by Lee C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋