Ok heres the deal tell me what you think. My husband and I have been married 12 yrs. My sister in law just had a baby. They asked my husband and one of their friend to baptize the baby. While in the least it doesnt bother me my husband doesnt think its right being that we are married. I told him that its an honor they asked him he should not deney to do it. He feels them leaving me out is not a good thing. What do you all think? Was it right for them to ask him only even though we are all close or is he right in thinking they really dont consider me in being as close as we think?
2006-07-06 03:20:12 · 14 answers · asked by budlghtbabe76 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband is the Godfather of a girl and I was not asked to be Godmother....and that is okay!! They picked a best friend and a sister of the mother. Besides, the Godparents don't really play any role anyway. If something were to happen to both parents, they are not going to go to the Godparents - they're going to go to a family member. A Godparent doesn't have any legal rights over the child. A Godparent is supposed to make sure the child stays in the religion or church as the baptism. But do you think if a Godparent came to the people who have legal rights over the child and they said "you can't raise that child such and such religion" --- it doesn't matter.
2006-07-06 03:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time, people have many people that they are close to. Since you don't want 35 people to baptize the baby, sometimes you have to leave people out, even if you would love to have them be a part of it. My boyfriend was in the wedding party of close friends of ours, and I wasn't asked, but it didn't really offend me. He has known them a lot longer and I still went to the wedding and we had an awesome time together. Make sure you tell your husband that you understand, that is HIS sister and you will happily be present for the occasion but you don't feel slighted by not being asked.
2006-07-06 10:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you're right and it is an honor for your husband to baptize the baby. I don't think that it makes you and your group of friends any less close just because they didn't ask you. My father was the best man in my mothers best friends wedding and my mother was just a bridesmaid(they're still best friends by the way). So you see it's nothing to worry about.
2006-07-06 10:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by divaintraing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your attitude is great I can understand where your husband is comming from but I don't think it's any reflection on you mabye your sister in law has a best friend she wants as godmother for her baby or another female relation. It's a hard decision to make and your husband should be proud. Tell him not to take your not being asked so personally. Good luck
2006-07-06 10:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by SHARON R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate to say it but, that does sound a little strange, but on the other hand your family probably did not think it would make you upset. Maybe the family friend has done something tremendous for them that you might not know about or it could be just a best friend thing. They might spend more time together then you and your family. I wouldn't get upset too quick , Maybe take them to the side and ask them personally if you have done something to upset them to leave you out.
2006-07-06 10:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by naughty_nina1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They asked him because he is her brother and then she probably asked her closest friend-it's not an insult at all-you have the right perspective on the situation. Explain it to your husband that it's like if you chose your brother and then your closest friend-maybe he will understand better. It's really good that you didn't take offense! Some women would, but when you look at the whole situation, it makes sense. Peace is always best.
2006-07-06 10:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's anything personal. I'm sure your sister in law put a ton of thought into who to choose. Chance are, your sister in law had an idea of who she'd choose way before she ever met you. So it's not you. It's the way she's always wanted it. And that's the way it should be. And if you have kids, I'm sure it'll be the same way. Hope it helps.
2006-07-06 10:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by rocknrobin21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine. They are not insulting you. Just tell your hubby to chill out. It's not worth creating a family conflict. This should be a happy time and they can do it however they want. Tell your hubby you are with him in spirit as the baptism is done, that you are part of him and connected to him to you are basically there. They just want to involve the other friend and you should be understanding about it.
2006-07-06 10:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the blood uncle right? You are the aunt by marriage. I don't think you should make a big deal out of it. Some people blow stuff out of proportion. I would do it the same way if I were in that situation.
2006-07-06 10:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband has a point, I would wonder why they left me out, especially if we are close friends and everything. So I would go with my husband on this issue
2006-07-06 10:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋