Some colleagues and I arranged a night out. This was nothing special, just a few friends getting together. One colleague whom was not asked to go, took umbridge and cried for two weeks that she wasn't invited (she wasn't the only one). It has been said that we should have put a notice on the staff notice board stating that we was going out to enable others the opportunity to go along too. Were we being unreasonable?
2006-07-06 03:05:47 · 21 answers · asked by Gill 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, who says you have to invite the whole office when a few people want to get together. Tell her to grow up and get some friends of her own to go do things with. You aren't obligated to ask anyone.
2006-07-06 03:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
No of course you weren't being unreasonable. Some people just think that everything arranged at work should be a "works" party and you're not allowed to have a life outside of that without them! If it was a night out for everyone then I am sure you would have put up a notice. If it was just a few mates and loads of people weren't invited, where is the problem?
2006-07-06 17:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by Evil J.Twin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you were not being unreasonable. It was not a company picnic, it was you getting together with people that you wanted to get together with on your own time.
This person is a whiner. Nothing you can do will placate this person.
Do this again if you want to. But you can't talk about it around the cry baby. Were any of you flaunting your good time in front of the crybaby - thereby adding salt to the wound? It certainly is not a nice feeling to be in an environment where you know you were one of the excluded ones to an event and it would be proper for you not to talk about it/ boast about it at work. If it comes out again, you are going to have to confront this person. It was not as if your employer sponsored this event or that this event went on to conduct company business. You have a right to a private life.
I would consult with some hr people from other companies about this. Maybe even get some legal advice. A vengeful crybaby is nothing to brush aside. When you confront this person you are going to have to come in with gloves off and have your facts.
2006-07-06 10:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If only a few close friends who happen to work together, decided to go out, others would not have to be invited. However, you should have refrained from discussing it at work. If it is a company sponsored event then a posting on the notice board is in order. Since it was a private outing for a few friends I see no reason you would be obligated to post it.
2006-07-06 10:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can feel for you in this situation. When I had my 21st birthday, just about everyone form work was invited, but one in particular was a real b**** and made my working life hell so she was definately not invited. She was actually the reason that I ended up quiting my job of for years.
Anyway, the next day back at work after the weekend, she came to me with a gift and said,"since I wasn't invited to your party I thought I'd give you this at work" Boy was my face red!!!
It is really hard when you are put on the spot like that.
You should not have to justify yourself to anyone.
2006-07-06 11:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by miss piggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - point out to your other colleagues that you can go out for a drink with whatever friends you want. It wasn't an official work thing, you weren't just being mean and excluding one person. If it were you and your friends from outside work, then they would not be able to say anything.
This lady obviously has low self-esteem, so see if you can boost it.
2006-07-07 07:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by claude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are bitches! I remember one evening Condy, Colin and Dick went to the Opera without me. Well I don't care much for the Opera, but I was upset that they tried to pretend that they were all staying in watching TV or washing their hair when I was asking
I showed them, by inviting myself and Donald down to the Monster Pick-up Truck races that next week. And then I also invaded Iraq so those three losers wouldn't have any free evenings again for a LONG time!!!
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2006-07-06 10:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by GeorgeBush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your colleague obviously isn't gracious enough to accept that she wasn't invited, any attempts you might make to rectify the situation will probably fail. Some people are just whiners.. You weren't being unreasonable, but your colleague is.
2006-07-06 10:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by mchamilton35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it this was not an official works outing ? If not then why should you have to put a notice up on the staff notice board ? If she wasn't invitied she should just get over it.
2006-07-06 10:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by mr_krabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, if you and the ones that were invited are all friends then that's fine to leave out people who aren't friends, if it was a meeting or something that concerned everybody then yes put it on the noticeboard, but if it's just going out with friends then sod the others :)
2006-07-06 10:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mummy of 2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋