how can people who have never experienced a broken heart, tell u how to get over one?

Question

my parents have been married since they were 17 and 18 but they think just by telling me to get over it, he wasnt good enuff for u anyway....that its just that simple. other people say give it time...but getting ur heart broken with someone u have known and love since childhood is not easy...and it seems like no matter how much time passes by it doesnt get easier to deal with.

Answer 1

yah but really what your parents say is true...you just get over it...i got up one day and all my pain was gone because i was starving and on the street ...there are far more important things in life than broken hearts.. for heavens sake there are kids who have to sleep on the streets did u see the kids in brazil or africa? thank god you got loving parents whocare enough to give sensible advice...get serious about your life and education...then you wont have the time to mope.

Answer 2

Well, I can say that it DOES get better. Remember that once things are bad and you continue to hurt, things can only get better! I'm living proof of that. When I was 15 i met the love of my life and we were inseperable, we stayed together for many years and we were engaged when we were 18. A year after we were engaged, God took her away from me when she was killed by a drunk driver. I do admit that it was VERY hard for me, I tried killing myself by pills, razors, and i even crashed my car into a pole at 50 mph. But I'm still here, and its for a good reason. If I wasnt alive, I wouldnt have met my wife! And I'm about to be a father now. So remember that life does go on, and there IS more than one person for someone to fall in love with. So keep your chin up kid, the sun will come back out again some day!

Answer 3

They're right you know. But if it makes you feel any better... I've had my heart broken TONS in the past! And each time, it took one mind opening experience for me to get over the guy. Something that showed me that the one I'd "lost" really wasn't worth it. With one it was seeing him yell at his new girlfriend. It gave me a third party view of what my realtionship had been and made me think "Wow... I'm glad we're not together anymore!" Maybe you just need to have that all changing experience. If it doesn't happen, then know that you will find someone else when you least expect it. And then all will be forgotten!

Answer 4

Your parents were just doing there best to ease the pain. Unfortunatley the pain your feeling won't go away that easily. I've had a broken heart beleive me. I know it's not fun and it's not easy to get over especially if you still have feelings for this person. My advice is to allow yourself to wallow for another day or two, then continue to go on with life. Keep yourself really busy and do a lot of things that are going to make you happy. Live life to the fullest and wait for another mr. right to come in and sweep you off your feet. But don't jump into another relationship too soon. I hope you feel better!
best wishes and good luck!

Answer 5

They can't. No one can. Even if they have had a broken heart, they haven't had YOUR broken heart. You get over it anyway you can and take as long as you need. Don't let anyone make you feel like you have to just blow past it as if nothing has happened.

It hurts, and you have to feel the pain so that you can let it go and move on. If you glance over it and tell yourself it's okay, then you'll never heal and will drag that baggage into every other relationship until you deal with it and let it go.

So take all the time you need. You can do it. And it will eventually get easier, you'll see. Good luck.

Answer 6

its not really easy to say that you must move on... time can heal the wounds though it will still bring back some good memories that may hurt you. Always remember that you have your parents and friends to support you. Find something that could catch your interest (not looking for another guy or flirting with other people) like work, studies, some hobby. And in case you remember him again, just say to yourself the following words. "He has been a great part of me but i need to let it go... God wants something more for me."

Always think positive. If bad things happen while your on your "heart therapy" always say to yourself that you learn something from it. And the more we learn, the more mature we get. Also, you may find the right one on the long run because you can start to guard your heart from things that could hurt you.

Answer 7

It never gets easy sugar. Don't listen to what anyone has to say about your feelings and how you should feel. Everyone deals with a heart ache in their own way. Some people cry some people get crazy, some people keep themselves as busy as possible just to keep their mind off of the pain. I would say to have as much fun that you could possibly cram into a day and try to trick my brain into trying new things, new people, new job just to get a fresh start. If your heart is still aching try to get em back. If that won't work make em jealous !!!

Answer 8

I totally agree with you hon.....it's sooo much easier said than done...I have been trying to get over a man that I have been in love with for the past 5 yrs.....no luck yet.....we are just "friends" right now.....there IS no easy way to do it and eveyone grieves at their own pace....some people can do it within a few months, others years....I'm sorry for your loss, I understand the pain that you feel and it's not easy. People just say things like that because they don't know what else TO say...my friends reacted in the same way...your parents just care about you and they are worried about your health, they don't want to see you go down just because of a man....and I understand that, I really do....I have a 15 yr. old boy and I would feel the same way BUT I would sit him down and talk to him about his pain and just LISTEN....that is sooo important, sometimes people just want to be heard and have their pain recognized...be patient with your parents, they really are trying!
My suggestion to you is to get to know yourself again and take up a hobby that you have always wanted to try, volunteer and try to make new friends to do things with. Get your exercise daily so that you can get a natural "lift" to make you feel more energetic and meditate on yourself....just sit back and think things through....enjoy your quiet time...I'm not saying this is going to be easy but doing some or all of these things can alleviate a little of the pain.
Good Luck to you!! Chin up!!

Answer 9

I understand not only what you are saying but how you feel. When you lose anyone you love but someone you have loved for a long time it seems as though the whole world is falling apart and nothing makes sense. Sadly though i can not tell you when you will get over it or why your parents don't understand I have not even spoken to the person who broke my heart in over two years and we dated for 6 and it still hurts sometimes even though now i am with someone and i am in love with them it still hurts

Answer 10

a broken heart is like a death only the person is still alive you have to grieve them just as you would the dead they have hurt a part of you that you did not know existed until that pain was caused but people are right it is all about time it does not get better but it will subside just like in death you still think about the person you miss them you wish they were still here and then you go on with life same in life you can'nt change the situation your feeling will always be there you just have to learn to deal with them in a productive manner so that you are not bitter to new life and love .