i know by bf since 6 years . we have been goin around since the last 1n half year. but d thing is that sometimes he keeps telling me to loose som more weight so that he can make me meet his family. he says he wont roam with me in his area till i dnt loose weight. he says he realy wants me to meet all his friends and so wants me to loose weight soon. does he really love me or my body.
2006-07-06 02:51:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend is telling you to lose weight? That's crazy. Honey, if YOU are happy with your body, that is all that matters. Don't try and please him or anyone else.
2006-07-06 02:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by brokenmuffinz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so shock..my mouth was wide open the whole time reading this...WOW I am sorry to say sweetie but your B/F is an ***..he started dating u the way u are and now he is trying to change u...if he really loves u he shouldn't care if your 100 or 200....I know I need to lose weight but my b/f has never told me to he says nothing of that sort....it seems to me I just don't want to sound mean but if a guy was to say what u just stated..that pretty much means to me is he is embrassed of me and that he will only let u meet family and friends till u lose weight is pretty shallow. think u can do better hun and it makes me wonder why u haven't met his family yet or friends after one year and a half of dating...it seems to me he has something to hide....I am so sorry is I offended u in anyway I just think u need a man that will treat u will respect and not bring down your self essteem cause nothing is harder than losing weight when your self essteem is low well take care and good luck
2006-07-06 10:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by sexy_online 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've known this guy for the past 6 years, why haven't you met his family yet? Don't give me that garbage about "losing weight"--that's a line if I've ever heard one! This guy is playing you--taking what you'll give--and is gonna hurt you at some point. If you have to ask if it's "love" or "just like", you already know the answer! Find someone who will love you for who you are--what you look like on the outside won't matter at all to someone who really loves you!
2006-07-06 09:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by tkltafoya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for my opinion, he doesnt love you just the way you are. If you love a person you will accept the things that your partner is happy about. He might love you in such a way he wants you to be presentable to the eyes of his friends and family but it is not a requirement if he loves you.
if he loves you, he will explain why he wants you to be slim...
But if the overweight problem doesnt get solved a month or so, he will present you to his family even your overweight.
Remember... if a guy trully loves you, he will not mind what other people says about his girlfriend.... most especially if it is something physical. Because when a person love someone, his/her partner is the most beautiful creation in the entire world.
2006-07-06 10:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by heaven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget this one. Someone who wants changes does't want you. Through a relationship thiings change all the time, only with true love does it work. He should hold you up on a pedistal for all to see, no matter what you look like. The way you are now is not going to be the way you are 5 years-10 years down the road. Do you want to chance wasting all the years on someone like that? I pray your answer is no. Think about this one real hard, you owe it to yourself.
2006-07-06 09:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by davidjudyrices 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 It's not at all bad to ask your partner to be in well shape and health for his/her better sec (not as condition to meet family member and friends).
2. One should put any conditions in relationship if they are really serious.
3. If you want to check if he really loves you or your body just try getting in shape and then see what he do.
If he still refuse to rom with you in his area or refuses to introduce you with his parents then drop this guy.
I know it's hard but it's better if you are really looking for true love.
All The Best
2006-07-06 10:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Atul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loosing weight is a good thing if you are over weight. It seems to me that your bf is ashamed to be seen together with you. Unless you are way over weight, I do not think he should feel that way. Be proud of what you are?
2006-07-06 09:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lost Sheep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is he to tell you to lose weight.You are who you are and dont change for anyone .If you want to lose the weight then lose the weight .Iam sure you are a beautiful person and if he cant see that then honey it hes lose not yours .I know you have a past but if he is like that it will never change you deserve better and the future will look to your favor.There are men out there who love you for who you are not just for how you look .That to me is how you know its real love .Good luck
2006-07-06 09:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by shelly29710 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is asking you to loose weight so you can meet his parents and his friends then you are in the wrong relationship. I guess he if he loves you not your body then he would not be saying to loose weight.
He is wrong for you .
2006-07-06 09:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to waste your time being with someone who is obviously ashamed of you. You should be with a man who'll look beyond your looks and see the beauty within you.
2006-07-06 10:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be choosy person. He likes u, but his DreamGirl is slim. But when he tries to see her dreamgal in u, YOu look fat dan he want. So do loose ur weight...................its sure he wil love u n meet u with his family members.
Best Luck.
2006-07-06 10:00:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋