Do you think not having a relationship is bad?

Question

If flirting with guys does it for you and you too scared to open up for someone cause you don't wanna get hurt. And how do you know that they're for real and not just playing around.

Answer 1

It's not bad to not be in a relationship, but it's no fun either. Try to be more carefree and open up a little. If you don't you'll never find the right person.

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with being single and having some fun. I know society seems to pressurize people a lot on the issue... my family was terrible! I often felt like I was a lesser person because I was single. But I held strong because I'd rather be single than in a bad relationship.
And like you, I was flirting loads but scared of getting involved. Eventually, I met a prince charming and I couldn't resist him. We've been together 18 months and are talking lifelong commitment...
My advice: have fun and take it easy. Don't mess up with your head by asking yourself too many questions. When you meet someone you really love, it'll just be too hard not to give it a chance.

Answer 3

You never really know, you have to let the chips fall where they may. NOTHING in life is guaranteed. But NOTHING beats failure but a try.

Flirting is fine, but if you want more you have to give more. Try going into a relationship as friends first, that way you get a chance to really get to know the person. If you put out too soon, you will never really know if the person likes you for you or vice versa. Take your time and take the rose colored glasses off. See people for who they really are and don't second guess yourself. Go with your gut instinct. Take it with a grain of salt, not to seriously, stay on your toes and be prepared for disappointments they are human nature. No one is perfect, but you can find someone that's perfect for you. Know what you want in a mate. Write a list of all the things you want in a mate and all the things you don't want in a mate. Keep your list handy and with the next potential do a check list. Don't waiver or settle and you are bound to do better then you have in the past!

Answer 4

lots of people are together for the wrong reasons, hence the divorce rate. When you are young you have a lot of ideas of how you are supposed to be but unfortunately things don't follow any particular plan. Be yourself,and if that means being single then be single, if that means falling hopelessly in love then do that, just don't be with the wrong person for the wrong reasons, be with the right person for the right reasons. The guys your age are mainly ruled by hormones (although real love exists at any age), so focus on deciding which guys you actually like as people,if you don't like their personality it really doesn't matter how good looking,rich or funny they are, eventually you will grow to dislike them.It is all trial and error,but that is the fun part.

Answer 5

I think that it's simply a sign that one is comfortable with themselves and with their own company. There is nothing wrong with some independence, if you personally feel nothing lacking.
I think it becomes a problem if you find yourself pining to be in a relationship and not having the courage to try. It sounds like you have been hurt very badly before, and are afraid of getting burned again. Maybe you just need to take it at your own pace until your wounds are healed.
But then, when you are ready...slow baby steps, honey, and remember that they are not all bad guys. Sooner or later you have to trust someone--you just don't have to trust them with your entire heart and soul immediately!
God bless and good luck to you, dearie.

Answer 6

Honestly you never do know. But if you stay closed up and sealed off from the world you'll never find true happiness. Flirting is good for so long but eventually it will leave you empty inside. People get hurt every day..it's just something you have to go though to learn and grow. I promise you will get over it and life will go on but if you conitune to live in a shell, you'll never find true happiness.

Answer 7

flirtinf wit someone isnt bad. but how long can you flirt with some one. at the end of the day u really need someone to care for u ' to love ' to protect you. its not bad not having a relationship but for how long can you stay alone every one needs some one to care for . and u dnt need to go find the one for you. the one who is for will automatically come into ur life n will b the most imp part of ur life amd u wnt be able to stop it. and then u will realise u have found him. u cant spend the rest of ur life alone in the fear of loosing the one who hasnt even come in ur life . cmon face it this is life n u gotta feel every phase of it. all d best

Answer 8

I think that for a period of time, it is OK (and if your busy, it is preferable, for a while).

But in the long run... you have to open up, to trust. Yes, you will be hurt, of course. But no risk, no gain, and being alone works for very few people, and fewer yet women (yes, we do want children eventually, and don't forget the children will also hurt you emotionally).

So, have fun, but don't give up on the big thing yet :)

Answer 9

It's completely okay to be single. In fact, it's sometimes better. It's nice to have someone to have and hold, but if you can be content with a bunch of friends and flirty acquaintances, more power to you! Relationships are amazing... and they are hard work! The right person will come along and you will just know that you want to be serious with them, but until then, just have a good time with your life.

Answer 10

I was single for nearly 9 years because I got hurt (aged 18!!) really badly by a girl I loved. I promised I would never let it happen to me again, but I did...nine and a half years later!!

I thought she was for real and now I'm not sure. Point is you have to try to really find out. I think it's better to try than to be lonely.