how do you deal with a loss of someone extremely close?

Answer 1

My sympathies to you. It takes time. I know it will be difficult but like the saying goes, time will heal all wounds.

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your loss. I know from experience that the only way for healing is to share your thoughts and feelings with others. Talk to family and/or freinds about the person you lost, about all the positive things you shared with that person. Talk about your different moods and reactions, saying things out loud helps to put them in perspective.

The easy way out, where you block everything out doesn't help, it'll all pops up again sooner or later, and in general when you're under pressure and don't need extra worries. Talk, Talk, Talk. Call your freinds and explain to them that you need to evacuate......

but don't forget to take a break once in a while - go out and have some fun if you're up to it, that helps to make sense of life. Find things that can give you a bit of peace of mind, and do those things when you need a time-out.

you will get there, we all do. it's hard work, so use your support system. best wishes.

Answer 3

I agree about Time heals. I lost my father when I was 14, my oldest sister when I was 18 and my mother when I was 35.

I had a LOT of baggage dealing with my dad's demise. He had Leukemia and we knew it was coming. He had depression and a very hot temper so I wished it would hurry up and happen so I could get his SS and VA checks.

Then I made myself "suck it up" and be the man of the family and didn't allow myself to cry at the funeral etc. I didn't deal with death very well until I was in my 30's but at least it was before I lost my mother.

You also get sentimental about the time you reach the age of the deceased. "Why them?" or "Am I doomed?".

We are all "doomed" to die from the time we are conceived. It is inevevitable. We just hope it is without pain and suffering.

My condolances and best wishes for the rest of YOUR life. Make the most of it!

Answer 4

I can relate to what you are going threw myself. Dec.8,2004 I lost my grandma that lived with mom and dad. Less than 30 days later, Jan.2,2005 I lost my only brother unexpectedly. At his funeral, mom had a stroke before services started and then another as we were walking out. 2 months later, dad had a stroke.

The pain is still there, but just not as bad, we deal with it the best that we can on a day to day bases. What is really hard is when you run across something that belonged to them. But I always try to just remember all the good times that we had together.

If you ever need someone to talk to I'm here!!!
We all still cry from time to time about our losses even today.

Answer 5

That's not an easy question to answer without knowing you or your loved one. Grief is a very personal thing. Also, your relationship with this person was unique.

Get support from those who know you and the other person well. Sometimes it can be difficult to share everything with others, because you may not want to burden them or you have feelings you are not sure they would understand. In these situations, it's best to get professional help. They can help you work through ALL of your grief feelings and questions.

Lastly, take care of yourself. Eat well, sleep well, and keep your habits healthy. (drowning feelings with alcohol or drugs just means they'll come back to the surface with more force later)

Answer 6

I think everyone needs a grieving process. I would(if the situation arises)..go back to photos, movies, articles that belonged to the person. There will be a time of darkness and despair-that is normal with any loss-that time needs to happen unfortuantly. People who go around saying "It's ok move on" are wrong. According to the quote "Time heals all wounds".

Answer 7

First, it is important that you GRIEVE, too many people neglect this fact, or think it is admirable to put on a brave front; in fact, lack of grieving SLOWS DOWN the healing process, so cry, shout, yell, throw things (in private), but be public about your emotions to your friends and family-- they are there to help. Share with others who are also grieving, share memories and emotions. Time does lessen the blow, the sad thoughts are replaced with happy memories of time spent with the person. God Bless!

Answer 8

Allow yourself time to grieve - I don't believe "time heals all wounds" - I believe that time puts a scab over a wound. The memory will always be with you but make sure it's a happy memory. I'm sure the person you lost wouldn't want you to cry for what you lost but smile for what you had.

Answer 9

Scrap book the good memories that you have shared with them, make it in their honor, it will help you not forget them but remember how special they were and still are to you. When your heart feels sad you will have a book of memories to make you happy and most of the time laugh, which is always a good thing for the soul.

Answer 10

It's not easy. But in this life everything is transient. Either you learn to accept it, let go and move on or stuck with it. Remember this, in the world of spirit where emotion is a powerful force, the more you grieve the more you make it difficult for him/her to cross over. Let go. He or she will be ok.

Answer 11

You need the help of friends and family. In the toughest of times they are the ones who can help you remember the good memories of the person you lost.