Ok. Me in my boyfriend have been together for about a year and we broke up because its a long distance relationship and our schedules were not flexible at the time, I have school and he's in the marines. Well we decided to see other people and I find out he got another girl pregnant. We have been talking a lot lately and we want to get back together but I don't know if I should, I don't want any baby drama!! So wat should I do?
2006-07-06 02:37:46 · 17 answers · asked by Chelly Belly 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Children are merely innocent beings. True love sees and knows no boundaries. You should look beyond that baby drama situation and decide if it is worth you letting the man of your dreams slip away. We all have baggage to bring to the table some of our baggage is bigger than others. Try asking yourself these questions if you answer no then more than yes then then you need to leave it at friends and move on, but if you do that make sure that you will be able to move on without the nagging question in the back of your head, " I wonder if"
1) do you love each other?
2) is distance a major issue?
3)can you accept a baby that isn't yours?
4)do youo see a future?
5)does he feel the same as you do?
6)is relocation possible and if so is a chance you are willing to take?
7)are you willing to allow him to be a father to the child?
8)do get all jittery and fluttered when you talk to him?
9)does it bother you if you don't talk regularly?
10) can you be with a man who is with child?
I hope that what ever you decide it is the best and right decision for you
2006-07-06 02:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by lashenica j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to decide right now if you are going to give him another. If you do that means accepting everything about this guy even the baby mama drama. How do you know she is going to cause any drama? If this guy is worth a second chance then you need to try to make things work. That's mean embracing his childs mother cause lets say you guys are together for a long time she will defintley be in the picture.
If you are having a hard time like I see then you need to walk away.
2006-07-06 09:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he got another girl pregnant, then you should move on.
Kids cost money and the last thing you need is a man with financial problems.
He will come up to you asking for you to help him pay child support.
He may end up living with her to avoid paying child support.
If you are rich then you have some room to move around and you have an options in a realm of possibilities.
If you aren't a fan of drama then don't take him back.
If you love troubles like this in your life and enjoy mysteries of men doing things behind your back and finding out when you least expected, then by all means....do what you love.
Remember that as women we aren't dramatic, the men bring the drama to us!!
If you like to spend your money on having a good time and looking hot then this man with a child isn't for you.....unless you are rich and you can afford him and his sperm bank.
2006-07-06 09:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on Ms. !!!
You broke up once... Don't be the type of person who gets stuck in the "been there done that" for the next five years...
On again... Off again... On again... Off again... That's played out!
And he has a baby with someone else, let him focus on being a dad for a while.... What happens if you get back together and you get pregnant??? You'll be competing for funds, attention, etc... Look for someone new, save yourself the headache because rest assured there will be drama with a capital D!!!
Print this out and keep it by the phone!
2006-07-06 09:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by ehmorris3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should end it. Number one he got a girl pregnant that he obviously doesn't love,so how many other girls did he have unprotected sex with. I have step children and believe me there is always some drama with their mother. My husband was never married to anyone else but me but that doesn't stop the mom from thinking SHE and her kids are number one. It's always a big fight. People make mistakes and it's o.k. to forgive them and accept them but make sure you really want to take on all the extra responsibility and hassle to be with this guy before you jump back into anything. Good Luck!
2006-07-06 09:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by nahimana34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That baby will always be apart of his life for the rest of his life and although you all where not a couple at time time what happened to safe sex? He left his self open for all kinds of things he is lucky if all he has is a baby on the way.. Ask yourself can you deal with all that and is it really really worth it? Do you want children with this person? Think.......
2006-07-06 09:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by aintdatsumshet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a supportive girlfriend and allow him to handle his business as a father. Sometimes a moment causes lifetime effects. Make it clear to him that you're there for him. If the mother has an issue with you, don't argue with her. Talk to your man and ask him to make it clear to the mother that you and him are together. Never let him disrespect the mother in your presence cause you have nothing to do with that relationship. Basically, be supportive, supportive, supportive.
2006-07-06 09:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously wasn't as committed to this long distance realtionship as you are. Just let him take care of his baby and live his life where ever he's at . If it's meant to be you will cross paths again some day, hopefully in the same state.
2006-07-06 09:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess reality is hitting him hard & he misses what you both had. But put in mind th@ the baby mama will always be there, they have a bond th@ you can't break. I'm sorry but couln't he wait for you or use a condom, reun girl if you don't want drama. But if you are a drama queen like me, well go for it!
2006-07-06 09:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by DEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him than go for it. I mean, just because he slipped up and got a girl pregnant doesn't mean that your wasting your time. My brother has "a baby's mamma" and a wife now. He and his wife are completely in love and happy together they have two children of their own. You never know what might happen. :)
2006-07-06 09:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋