My relationship is not working for meanymore and my boyfriend just does'nt wanna let go what should I do?
2006-07-06 02:35:41 · 21 answers · asked by naughty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi,
Tell him, "You know how much he cares about you and wants to see you happy." Tell that, "You will alway love him for allowing you to grow and assisting when the growing was hard."
Then tell him " That it's now the time for you to move out of his way and allow him to grow and be the man he is so capable of being. And that you understand how much this relationship is holding him back."
This always works! Just make sure it about improving him, not you seeing someone else.
Good Luck!
2006-07-06 02:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by Leslie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to just sit him down and tell him how you feel, face to face. Be honest, just let him know that you are not feeling the relationship anymore and that you don't want to continue on with it. His feelings are going to be hurt no matter what, but if you are just honest and not criticizing he should bounce back quicker than if you were just mean and uncaring. Let him know that you care for him (because obviously you do if you don't want to hurt his feelings) but you are not in love and you don't want to keep him from finding someone whose feelings will reciprocate his. Basically, just be honest and if he still wants to remain in contact after that, give it a while before you guys start to talk or whatever because you don't want to lead him on and make him think he still has a shot if you know that all you could ever be is friends.
2006-07-06 09:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by ♥BlackGirlLost♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just tell him, I feel that things aren't working out. I need a break and there are other people are there that will be better matches for us.
Do it in person, stay sitting, stay calm and don't use lines like "I met someone else" or "It's me, not you."
Honestly tell him you aren't in love anymore and you need a break.
Just don't text him, e-mail him, or call him. Or the worst - a letter. My friend just did that - the results were NOT good.
Honesty is the best policy. He will be hurt, but leading him on fo too long will just sharpen that pain.
2006-07-06 09:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to you but there is no way to break up with any guy without hurting him (well besides the sleeping with his mum option.lol) But if you must break up with this guy then you mine as well do it gently. Tell him your reasons and tell him that you don't want to hurt him. That's very important. He might not understand your reasons or feel the same way you do, but he will eveuntually get over the break-up. Plus, if you continue going out with him and have no feelings for him then your just going to hurt him more by not putting a 100% into your relationship.
2006-07-06 09:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by divaintraing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay there is no easy way to break up. Just let him kno straight up!!! Just tell him, I love you as a friend but this relationship is just not working for me anymore. Let him kno that you are not happy. Just make sure you are content with your choice because he may try to erase you from his life completely after this. Some guys just dont do well with breakups so be prepared. Good luck!
2006-07-06 09:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by Chelly Belly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him that you care very much for him but that you must do what you feel is right for you and that you hope he can one day understand. It is hard and you will probably both cry but you would be wasting his time and yours if you stay together because eventually it would end anyway if this is how you feel. Stay strong & stick to your decision but also be caring and don't blame him for anything - son't say anything mean or complain about the past. Good luck!
2006-07-06 09:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by savagescorpio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well despite what you say or do he will probably be hurt. Just tell him you think the relationship isn't working and that if he cared about you at all he would just let you go.
2006-07-06 09:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by moma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him you had a good start to a relationship, but you have had time to reflect on it, and it would not be fair to either of you to hold onto something that is just no longer there.Be sure to do this in person, look him in the eye and tell him you wish him good luck in finding the girl who is right for him, but that it is not you.
2006-07-06 09:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by parkmaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. You're probably going to hurt his feelings no matter what you do, but if you don't want him to hate you down the road, then just be straight up. "I'm sorry, I just don't love you." He may not see it now, and he may not like it or understand it, but he'll learn to live with it. And he'll most likely come to see that you two weren't right for each other also!
2006-07-06 09:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by rocknrobin21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say it! Tell him as compassionately as you can that it's over and you are moving on. There is no way to not hurt him if he cares a lot about you. If you stay, just to "not hurt him", then you will be hurting yourself very badly, and ultimately him, too.
2006-07-06 09:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by save_up_your_tears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋