Sex before marriage?

Question

There are many people in the whole world that have sex without being married. I am one of them and I realize that it's not the best decision I've made because I am now pregnant because of it. Now, I am still not married, but we are still together. I have done research on what God thinks of it and I know he thinks it is wrong and unjust. However, just because I've wronged him doesn't necessarily mean that I will go to hell, right? What do ya'll think? I was told that hell is in my future because of my decision. I don't agree with that at all. I believe that sex is made for marriage, but if it happens before that it doesn't get heaven out of your future. Do ya'll agree with me?

Answer 1

Regardless of our past decisions..Whatever..God's love is unconditional. Meaning, own up to what you have done, it does not line up to what the WORD of GOD says...REPENT. Your slate is now wiped clean. Your sin has been forgotten. That's wonderful!
Romans 10:9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
Rom 10:10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.

Sex before marriage have all sorts of consequences. The guy that got you pregnant may not be around to help you with the child, and there's always the risk of contracting an STD. God has given us his WORD for eternal life and to protect us. When we go outside of his will there are all sort of consequences.
Learn from this and save yourself until marriage...The person that told you that information is incorrect. God forgives, just ask for God's forgiveness. God wants to forgive us, thus the reason Jesus died on the cross to bury our sins. We serve a forgiving GOD. God has done everything that needs to be done, we just need to meet him at the cross on our knees.

Answer 2

I am strong in religion too. You will not go to hell. All humans make mistakes, all humans do things that are considered "wrong" in God's eyes and this is all normal. We wern't put here on earth to compare to the Lord, we were sent here to live a good life and learn from our wrongdoings. I am not a perfect person but yet i attend mass almost once a week. God understands you more than anyone else, if you feel like he's going to look down on you, pray. But never ask for forgiveness if you don't mean it. But if you feel guilty than ask for forgiveness and beleive it or not your sin will be forgiven. Hell is not your future, so dont think such a thing. Everyone "sins", I'd love to meet someone who's never sinned and lives a perfectly good life. And as a sidenote.. many people have sex before marriage, so if that's the case, than there is going to be a big hell and God wouldnt want that.

Answer 3

First of all Katie, though we have done things wrong, God is a God of forgiveness. You going to heaven is not based on your works, if it were we would ALL miss heaven. The reason why you have done everything wrong that you've ever done boils down to one thing and that is...it's not your fault. I know you made the choice to have sex before marriage, I know you have probably chosen to lie or do something bad but ultimately it's not YOUR fault. You (and everyone else on earth) have a disease, that disease was passed down to you from your parents and their parents through history all from the first person every...Adam. Have you ever wondered why the story of Adam and Eve was so important? It's because they made the first bad decision and messed it up for everybody. Have you ever wondered WHY Jesus decided to die for us? The reason is because when Adam messed up, God looked through the ages and saw a whole bunch of people who were going to suffer because of Adam and it wasn't their fault. The only person who didn't have the same blood stream was Jesus and his sacrifice was the only one that would fix the problem. If you pray and ask God to cure your disease and accept that Jesus died to fix what Adam broke then no matter what you've cured your disease and not treated your symptom. You will still do things wrong but one you have started the cure...you'll want to do things right. I pray that all goes well for you. Stay strong and rely on HIS love.

Answer 4

I was raised a devout Catholic and i cannot fornicate(have sex before marrieage and two days of fasting) nor do i believe it's right. But i can't control what others do and i won't frown on anyone who does and get pregnant and stay with their partner. You can go to confession and confess what you did and explain your situation and the Priest will give you a penance. Serve your peneance and you will be saved. As my mother told me when i turned sixteen "you need to stay away from boys, impure thoughts will send you to hell. go to confession every Sunday and confess your sins. then serve your penance devoutly and you too will go to Heaven on the wings of a Dove."
God loves you whether you waited or not it's all about your decisions in life that may make you stray. Keep the baby, keep your love and live you life in happiness. You never know when he'll call you to him in his kingdom of angels.
Blessed Be

Answer 5

First of all, I hope you aren't using your real name. And I hope that this baby will turn out to be a beautiful and positive thing in your life no matter the circumstances. Children are a gift from God.

No, you will not go to hell for having sex outside of marriage. What sends us to hell is sin, unpaid for by Christ. The Bible says that we must confess our sin and ask Jesus to forgive. It doesn't matter what you've done - if you repent of what you know is wrong in your life and ask Jesus to come into your life, then you will not go to hell.

Answer 6

This is one of the reasons I consider myself an agnostic. Christians like to tell you that the only way to salvation is through Jesus Christ. And that he will forgive all of your sins if you just ask. But if you do something that they (these "Christians") feel very strong disagreement to, such as get pregnant out of wedlock, they tell you that you are going to hell. Which is it? It would seem to me if your sins are forgiven if you are true of heart and just ask then you are good to go. If you have to go to hell because of it then that is a god i don't want anything to do with in the first place.

By the way, you don't buy a car without a test drive. Think about it.

Answer 7

Depends. Hell is in your future if you dont repent and ask for forgiveness. Are you christian? These are things for which christ died on the cross. Before Christ all men had to live a perfect life, now christ allows for you to repent and ask for forgiveness for your sins. The kicker is this, once you ask for forgiveness for your sin, you have to stop doing that specific sin. Other wise the request was made in vain. i.e. with out earnestness. I suggest that you either a)Ask for forgiveness, marry or seperate from the father of your child b)dont ask for forgiveness and pray that God help you find the right solution FOR YOU. AND THEN ask for forgiveness. Most importantly, go talk to your minister/priest. If they come down on you too hard and tell you that you are going straight to hell find another church. Although it is true that without repentance and forgiveness you will go to hell if you die tomorrow. This is all for you to decide.

I will also tell you this. Do not marry someone just b/c they are the father of your child. God would rather you carry on than marry and divorce. so would your child. Marrying someone you arent sure/know isnt meant to be your partner in life then you are opening up another opportunity for sin. This is my theory on sin, I try to minimize sin. I try not to make opportunity for it, I figure I sin enough just by being human that I dont need to add to it conciously.

Good Luck, it seems that your heart is in the right place and God Knows that. Jesus Loves you, remember that. And always keep this poem in mind:

One night a man had a dream. He dreamed
he was walking along the beach with the LORD.


Across the sky flashed scenes from his life.
For each scene he noticed two sets of
footprints in the sand: one belonging
to him, and the other to the LORD.


When the last scene of his life flashed before him,
he looked back at the footprints in the sand.


He noticed that many times along the path of
his life there was only one set of footprints.


He also noticed that it happened at the very
lowest and saddest times in his life.


This really bothered him and he
questioned the LORD about it:


"LORD, you said that once I decided to follow
you, you'd walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed that during the most
troublesome times in my life,
there is only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why when
I needed you most you would leave me."

The LORD replied:


"My son, my precious child,
I love you and I would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering,
when you see only one set of footprints,
it was then that I carried you."

Answer 8

I think God never gives you more than you can handle. So... where as a pregnancy in your life may not have been the best timing - clearly He has it in His plans for you. I do not think you are going to go to hell because you had sex before marriage. I think as long as you believe in God with your whole heart and understand what he has sacrificed for you... then you are one of his children and will be forgiven. What you need to focus on now is taking care of your body for your child. God has made that child your responsibility to take care of and raise. So, treat your body and child with due respect, and remember to teach your baby who ultimately put him/her here. God gave you a child, and that is a gift. Congratulations! - Sara

Answer 9

You will not go to hell because you had sex before marriage. You will only end up there if you are a bad person. You sound like a lovely person who will surely be destined to go to heaven one day in the very very distant future.

Answer 10

Yes sex is made for a married couple to share but if u ask for forgivness and repent-which means refrain from having sex until ur married u will go to Heaven. But u have to accept Jesus Christ as ur Lord and Savior. Believe it in ur heart and confess it with ur mouth that He died and rose again u will be saved from eternal damantion.