i mean can we still get married, cos we wish to and wen will he propose?
2006-07-06 01:33:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Of course you can still get married!
The only problem with getting married is some people see it as a final step. They may not be ready for that type of commitment yet, no matter how much they love someone. Also there is cost to consider. Once cost and other issues are out the way, then I wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-06 01:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by sivercat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These days it's perfectly normal and acceptable for you to be the one who proposes! My friend proposed to her partner and he was thrilled and relieved.
A lot of couples don't even talk about marriage. They love one another deeply but are too scared of raising the conversation purely because they are unsure of how the other will react. Four years isn't an incredibly long time, you have all the time in the world.
What we women need to realise is that marriage isn't something compulsory that we all have to do once we fall in love. At the end of the day, all it is is a piece of paper. Your love is the strong thing, the bond that has tied you for three years.
I would casually broach the subject and see what his reaction is. Then, days later, make the day really special and ask him. If you don't ask you will never know.
2006-07-06 02:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend married her husband six months after they met. My husband and I were together for 3 1/2 yrs before he proposed. It was another yr & 1/2 before we got married. I have a friend who has been dating her boyfriend for 8 yrs with no proposal yet, although she's getting antsy. I know a couple who've been together for 13 years and have finally started to talk about getting married. All four of the couples I mentioned are very happy. There is no one solution to your question. It's about what works for you, and nobody can know that except the two of you. Good luck.
2006-07-06 01:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by krisski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OHHHHH God, I thought I was BAD. My husband and I were boyfriends for 11 years. Finally, I told him either you decide or you decide . I would talk to him about commiting, he would give me excuses that he was not ready, needed to find a better job, after having a new job had to wait at least a year to make sure he would stay, he had to earn good money, and this and that, then when he finally said yes, he was afraid to commit. I had to answer to the group that was providing the music, so I told him "I NEED AN ANSWER NOW". We are now married for almost 10 years. GOOD LUCK !!!
2006-07-06 01:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt do the hint process it might pressure him into asking you and even though you may be ready he may not be. Just give it time. When you both are surely ready then the question will come. If you still want the question then just ask him. Dont hint just ask him. If he really loves you he will tell you why or when he was planning on asking you. Good luck and I hope all goes well.
2006-07-06 02:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by bored_rena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother has been with his girl for 4 years too. that is with NO cheating, etc. yup they are FOREVER in love and are getting married this month.
well yes and no. you both have to want it to last forever.. .and you have to make sure that even if a little misunderstanding or something comes up, to not let it get into a big huge thing... unnessisarally etc....
don't worry. he'll gather the courage soon enough to propose to the wonderful girl that he is dying to marry.
2006-07-06 02:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sheshh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being together for 4 years doesn't mean u don't have the chance of marrying thats crazy thats a good sign u'v been together for so long. so i think it's time someone popped the question. :-) don't worry i'm sure he will, but it's best to sit down and talk about it properly with one another and what u both want for the future :-)
2006-07-06 01:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by DaRkAnGeL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing stopping you asking him, unless you are the traditional type.
He will ask you if and when he is ready.
You could always broach the subject by asking him what he sees the future holding for the two of you. Then take it from there.
2006-07-06 05:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by Gill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've been together for 4 years for some reason that you mutually know... thats marrying each other...
now what are you waitin for, huh?
talk to him 'bout marriage . . . . . .. . if he's not. you loved for 4 years . you'll love each other more, in the comin years, it just gets better
2006-07-06 02:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the hint process, like when shall we move to the next step.
Or start buying wedding planner mags for him!
2006-07-06 01:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by Whisper4691 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋