Why Can't I get a BF?

Question

I am 5’7’ and I weight 110, I work out every other day, in my opinion I have a great body and a pretty face, good since of humor; overall I am a very attractive girl, people are always telling me I should be a model, but I still can’t get a boyfriend. I was just wondering why? Do you guys think something is wrong with me? The limited amounts of guys that approach me are way below my standards. How can I attract the type of guys I am into?

Answer 1

"below my standards"
I think it may be a snooty attitude that boys find a turn-off. If you're looking for shallow men though, try going into modelling and focus on photographers, camera-men, bitpart actors et al.

Answer 2

Get a grip! I have the feeling you have messed up some relationships becuase men think you are crazy. You are not crazy. You just probably hate yourself.You are so screwed up emotionally on the inside that you have perfected the outside because it is something tangible---something over which you have control. What you can not control, however, are your emotions and you should work on calming down.

So to answer your question: "How can I attract the type of guys I am into?" I'd say get over the body image stuff and dig for your true feelings about your life. Eat a stinking sandwich, laugh, for Godssake have a good cry. Let it out. Stop worrying and obsessing. And stop assuming the men who approach you are way below your standards. I dare you to give at least two dates to the next halfway decent guy who comes along. I'm 38 and I am happily married---and I used to be you. I got over my body image thing (it is still a struggle, though) and I am in a wonderful relationship, but it wasn't always this way and I wasted a lot of time when I should have been working on my career.

Life isn't going to pass you by. You are right in your moment right now. Open your eyes and look into your future and make some serious plans for yourself and then start really working on accomplishing your dreams. This whole beauty thing and boyfriend thing is going to suck away your life and then when your my age you'll wonder what the heck happened to your LIFE.

Answer 3

I think that some of the nicest guys are intimidated by attractive women. They feel it is better not to approach a beautiful women if there is a chance you may be rejected.

Make sure that when you are out that you smile at the guys you want to approach you. Give them some encouragement, speak to them maybe. "Is anyone sitting here?" "I don't usually come here, this is a nice place." Whatever is a good opening without seeming like you are reaching. Just be friendly and see what happens. Some guys are just plane shy and you have to give them the extra push to get started.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

It's difficult. Unfortunately I've found that being "model material" is a hinderance. Most guys fear rejection, so to approach a really pretty woman is difficult because they feel they'd be turned down. Oddly, the below standard guys don't have this fear. You'd be surprised at the idiots who try to talk to me as if I'd really consider them. I guess they feel like what have they got to lose? I know this sounds shallow and I sound full of myself, but I'm not. This is so true. People don't want to hear that you can't get a man because you are TOO pretty or TOO sexy. But it's true.

We should form a sisterhood some place. On second thought, I love my sisters, but they can't hold me at night like a man can. I guess we'll just have to keep on trucking. He'll come along when we least expect it, when we stop looking for him, he'll appear on our doorstep.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Asking random people on-line doesn't seem a good way to get an answer, but here's how I got my fiance.

Be yourself.

I'm not pretty, I admit it, though many guys think I am. I'm overweight, I barely ever exercise, I'm not into sports and barely into school. I simply am myself around guys because they're just other people. If you always look at guys as potential BFs, they may feel pressured to step up to that standard and ignore you instead for a girl they find more relaxed around them. And it doesn't matter if they are 'below your standards', if you're only looking at them, how will you ever know who they really are? Try dating one of them...you never know who you'll actually end up with unless you TRY!

Answer 6

Try me :)

Anyway may be it is your attitude that the men who approach you are "below your standard" The society only makes it possible to approach a lady (or guy) that is within your class strata and maybe the people you think you should be dating are way "above your standard" or better still you are "below their standard"

Bottomline is forget about the standards thing and get on with life whilst giving the guys who approach you enough time to prove themselves to you. the saying goes that "time is the best examiner".

I am sure you will get someone. if not... try me :)

Answer 7

Thats your problem -- "The >>limited amounts<< of guys that approach me are >>way below my standards<<"

Answer 8

don't wait for guys to approach you. approach them.

also, don't look for boyfriends, look for friends first. from experience i can say that those make the best boyfriends. go places that you like to go to, if you like sports, go to games and look for friends there. if you like art, go to museums and see who find there as well.
do what you like and eventually you'll find a guy who likes the same thing who's nice. also remember, looks aren't everything.
looks won't be your friend. looks won't tell you they're sorry. looks won't care that you're sad. but a great boyfriend will.

Answer 9

It's just you should make the first move if you want a Bf so badly. Go to the mall and look for someone or something.

Answer 10

What are your standards? They might be set too high. Or your ideal guy is already taken by Mr. Right ;)