Would you?

Question

This coming weekend I am to have lunch with the brother of a man who I briefly dated before. The one who I dated we ended up in a bad way, he's brother is totally the opposite and I will be honest and admit that I am very attracted to him. I know I will go and meet for lunch but I'd like to know how others would view it, so please give me your answer if you would.

To "Uncle John" who took the time to give his time to answer my question, well please don't wonder no longer as to who I am, I am a person who's trying to find out other people's point of view. It's not your cousin, uncle, brother and when I said bad end it's because we're not talking to each other and it was a brief hook up. I helped to end the brief hook up, he smokes a lot and drinks a lot more then I do, then he turns kookoo, I am who I am I like myself a lot and I do what I want at my own risk. About the brother, he's smart, cute, charming, successful and I only see friendship going on there, and by the way I don't like explaining myself but since I do know who you are then I thought you should be friendly and not judgemental.

Answer 1

Who cares? Do what you want.

Answer 2

Hey, dont worry about what people think. I became pregnant to a man who died five months into my pregnancy. We were very close and it was the hardest thing I ever had to go through. Its really hard lookin at our son knowing that hell never get to meet his dad any time soon here on earth....anyway its a few years later and I am currently dating his cousin of whom I am very close to. Now, I feel that it is better this way because I KNOW this guy loves my son for sure and isnt just acting like it to get my acceptance of him. He also loves me for WHO I AM. Now, we wouldnt be together if the father of my baby was still here and/or if we were even seperated. So alot of people, including the family had alot to say about it and put us through alot....but in the end, at the end of the day, its all worth it. We are very happy together and living FOR US. So the point of the story is, WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE THINK, theyre not in your shoes, some dont and WONT understand, maybe even forever but you have to live for you and your happiness and the people that do have a problem will eventually get over it. Remember you are your own person and do what makes you happy! And dont expect them to understand....
good luck in whatever you chose :)

Answer 3

If lunch is just lunch, you're okay. If the brother tries for anything more you're leading yourself into trouble. If I dated an ex of my brother's that ended badly, it would be forever a break between him and I. Don't start anything with him unless you're absolutely positive of two things:

1. That the other brother would be cool with it.
2. That it actually will go somewhere.

If either of these two things are in question, you're going to be in a tough spot.

Answer 4

First of all were you sexually involved with the first brother? If yes, are you also going to put out for the second brother? If yes to both ofcourse it isn't going to look very good, espcially if the family knows. If it was only a brief sexless encounter, go for it.... Perhaps you made a wrong choice the first time....

Answer 5

I'm begining to wonder who you really are, Claudia. How old is this brother, you spoke of? You said the relationship ended in a bad way. (MIght it have been unnecessary, too?). Whose fault was it?/who ended it? I don't think you're thinking straight. But that might just be my opinion. Sure, meet him for lunch, but don't try to interest him, if he's not interested in you. was the lunch, his idea? He might 've had a reason for it, different than the reason you think it is. Maybe he wants to talk about his brother and you.

Answer 6

It's great. He wouldn't have asked if he wasn't also interested....why else would you ask the girl your brother broke off badly with??? Go for it girl. And if the 1st brother doesn't like well....too bad...he should have tried harder to keep you! And if you find after lunch you want nothing to do with the man, well, free lunch!

Answer 7

That's fine if you are interested on him. Is not a big deal the fact they are brother, if your relationship finished, just make sure the first one not have any feeling for you because will hurt him a lot if he knows that you will date his own brother, otherwise is OK.

Answer 8

what the views of others in this situation is a NON-ISSUE.

it is your life and you are seeking something that is close 2
your heart... isn't it !


Go out and meet him. whatever be the outcome, alteast
enjoy ur lunch Lady!

Stay relaxed,. Firstly BE NICE 2 URSELF and you would
eventually be utterly NATURAL and allow things to meander to
its way, so that what is best to you HAPPENS!

Gud Luck :)

Answer 9

There are like 6 billion people in the world, and you can't someone else that isn't related to him. Man, I would never forgive my brother if I was him. Don't come between family, it'll come back to bite you in the butt later.

Answer 10

what is past is past... if you like him go for it. As long as you're sure the brother won't try to mess up things. You should talk it clearly with the man you like now, because there might be some family trouble there....

Answer 11

I could be wrong, but, brothers have a tendency to stick together on matters, and it sounds to me that he may be using his bro to get the final shot in at you so he can have the last laugh. Be very careful!