Should I let my Husband go to a strip club??

Question

o.k. this is the deal,About 2 months ago he asked me if he could go with his firends from work and I said NO..Now he wants to go this sat. what should I do?? It's not the trust thing because I trust him it's the girls...I don't even know what they do!!! We have been married 4 years.And to top it off he dosen't like to drink!!! please help

Answer 1

No, if you feel the least bit uncomfortable then dont let him. He should respect that.

Answer 2

ok, why in the hell would you care if he goes to a strip club and watchs the girls/ gets a lap dance, whatever, as long as he comes home to you, "clean"?
Maybe you are not aware, but men are sexually stimulated visually, where women are usually not, at least not as much. Let him have a good time, and look forward to him coming home. It is no different than you going to a male strip show. If you have never been to one, maybe you should go. It will help you break out of your shell a bit.
The more you keep something a mystery, the more need the mystery has.... Get it?
Besides, so your married, does that mean you both are now "blind"? For crying out loud, loosen up.
If, after he goes with the boys a few times, you may find, as many women who frequent male strip reviews find, it get's a little old after awhile, kind of looses it's appeal (mystery solved!)
You know, there is nothing stopping you from going, actually, if you would quit being so paranoid, as a man, your husband would probably find it quite a turn on for you to go. Hell, get a lap dance yourself. NO, it does not mean your a lesbian...
Most of those women are really decent looking and with nice bodies, at least here in Vegas they are. But here, they make thousands of dollars a week and look like models. ( in the better clubs, like Cheetahs, or the Paradise Room)
Your his wife, not his mother, or his conscience, lighten up and enjoy a little something on the wild side. No one needs to know....

Answer 3

The girls are basically "actors". They will say and do anything to get the guys to buy more lap dances. So just put him on a budget! Tell him $20 is his limit! I've gone to a club with my husband and I was more entertained by watching all the guys think they were going to get lucky than I was with anything else. I had my reservations, so I went. No big deal. My husband and I actually joke about it. If you trust him, then don't worry about it.

Answer 4

No, Ask him why he needs to hang out with his "buddies" at a strip club...why not somewhere else? Your husband should be able to find everything he needs with you and he should let his buddies know that it's inappropriate to be going there when he has a wife sitting at home. If one of your girlfriends were to strip in front of him and/or give him a lap dance it would be cheating, the difference with that and a strip club is he would be paying a woman to do that. It's cheating, period.

Answer 5

My husband went to strip clubs every once in awhile, and most of the time he took me, or we went with another couple.
Now it's out of his system and he doesn't even care to go even if it's a friends bachelor party.
Let him go, it's better to say yes than to have him sneaking off and going.
And he doesn't have to drink alcohol, he can order a Coke.

Answer 6

I remember the first time I went to a topless performance at a strip club. It was years and years ago. I was quite bored after 10 minutes and never went to another one. Mainly because,,,everything that the ladies had and displayed, I was aware that my wife has the same things. Case closed. It was a one time educational experience and that's it.

Answer 7

Ask him why he wants to go. Is it the naked women or a male bonding thing because his other friends go?
Then if he feels strongly about it offer to go with him. I wouldn't want to go myself but at least making the offer will get an interesting response from him.

I used to live at the beach where we have strippers galore and most guys will go once or twice then stop. Those places are nasty, the girls trashy and they're expensive. Don't let those women make you feel bad about yourself. If he goes once and that's it, let it go. If it becomes a regular outing I'd seek counseling with him.

Really it comes down to you. If it upsets you then he should respect you enough to stay home. But will 1 or 2 trips ruin your marriage.. no.

Would I let my guy go.. no, but that's me. LOL

Answer 8

Let him go. It's no big deal. They dance around naked. They rub themselves. The guys just hoot and holler. And the girls are either nasty skanks or they are too hot to bother with the clientele. And once he goes, he probably won't go again. Strip clubs are pretty pathetic.

He's still married to you. He'll stay married to you. You gotta let go a little. Don't smother or throttle.

A man's view.

Answer 9

It all starts innocent, then gets worse. Trust me when I say it dosen't get better if you permit such action. It sounds enticing at first glance, but after then it sucks you in. Of course I mean your hubby. Goodluck. Mind you I am a man. This is my humbly opinnion as a man.

Answer 10

I think that any sexual touching or stimulation, or emotional bond is an affair.
Lap dances are practically sex and memories of nearly or fully naked women other than yourself will pretty much be in his head forever after this.
Tell him if he values your relationship, he will stop asking for permission to cheat on you. It may not be sex but its still something that will cause distance between you whether either of you realize it now or not.

Answer 11

if you trust him then it's not a problem. most of my mates are male and they sometimes go to the strip clubs. they go there so they can hang out with the boys. they sometimes watch the strips but most of the time they just hang out together. one of the only places they can hang out with all guys and not be thought to be gay. lol to the girls it's just a job.