it is 3 weeeks until i get married. and im a little nervous that my fiance' will cheat on me again. he already cheated on me when we were teenagers, and he promised me that he will never do it again. i am now 19 and he is 21. then to make i worst the girl he cheated on me with is now our wedding planner. should i fire her? i dont know if i can trust him around her. i maen ever since he's been sharing some glance with her that are a little too friendly. i dont kno if i should call off the weddding , fire her , or just talk with them, or just....... i dont know. can some one just help me please!
2006-07-05 10:02:00 · 10 answers · asked by erin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i found out that she was the girl he cheated on me with after i hired her as the planner
2006-07-06 04:39:56 · update #1
Talk to them first. Depending on how long ago he actually did it would say if thats really why you are nervous or if it is just because your wedding is coming up so soon. If the talking doesn't do it then I would fire here. Unless you really think he is going to cheat on you then I wouldn't kiss the wedding good bye.
2006-07-05 10:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by brezzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a little immature to be getting married in 3 weeks...no offense. For one, if this man already cheated on you, why would you marry him? Was it good times when you found out about it? If you can't trust him, why are you marrying him? Not to mention, why in the world would you hire a wedding planner that was the girl that he cheated with?! Let yourself grow up a bit before making a mistake......or it will end in divorce.
2006-07-05 21:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetly fire that girl. It's just a safety precaution. I would think he'd cheat with her, during the wedding planning process somewhere(s).
You can find ways to tell if someone is cheating, so you don't have to be so paranoid all the time. Mostly check their car for things that aren't for you, but for another girl. The car is where they are usually hidden. You'd have to do research to get all the signs.
Being nervous before a wedding is very normal.
2006-07-05 17:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by JoeIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a little ironic that shes your planner...how'd that happen??> Well. I think you should fire her--why take the chance--and get a new planner. Then talk to your man about how you're feeling. Also, it might not be a bad idea to go see a relationship therapist. Good Luck!
2006-07-06 09:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by gcpom02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them. Individually and together. All three of you. What you are experiencing is cold feet combined with unresolved issues from the past. I believe people can change. Once a cheater not always a cheater. (Although I've eaten those words more then once) If you can't trust him you can't marry him.
2006-07-05 17:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but you sound like you are very naive...both of you are too young for marriage and you are certainly not ready for it. you are still stuck on the fact that he cheated on you (no trust)
why would you hire that chick to be your wedding planner? are you nuts FIRE her!
2006-07-05 21:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by MARY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see... why get rid of the flower if the problem is the weed? she's not the only wedding planner around.
2006-07-05 17:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust your man, then you should not be marrying him. Honestly, that's all there is to it. You are too young to get involved with someone who doesn't love you the way that you love him and won't respect you the way you deserve to be.
2006-07-05 19:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry a man you cannot trust. If he cheated once, he will again.
2006-07-05 17:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them
2006-07-05 17:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by hawaiicatlynblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋