he was my first love ..we staied 2gether for 2 years.. broke up 3 monthes ago.. i thought it'd make me feel better cause being with him was killin me everyday... now i still feel so bad.. i miss him sooo much "we still talk as friends"... i feel that i cant move on... i still have the same feelings for him.. but it seems that he moved on and he is seeing some1 already.... i want to get him out of my mind .... shall i stop talking to him?? what shall i do i wanna get rid of these feelings ='(... .. oh by the way he is 28.. am 19....
2006-07-04 21:45:37 · 19 answers · asked by Hadeel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honey, ive been thru that before and i know how it hurts and how hard it is for you. but soon, you will laugh at yourself for crying over him and stuff, time will eventually heal your breaking heart.
If you think you are beaten. You are. If you think you dare not. You don't. Success begins with your own will. It's all in your state of mind. Life's battles are not always won by those who are stronger or faster. Sooner or later the person who wins is the person who thinks he can. Do not isolate yourself from anyone dear cause what you need right now are friends to help you pull through, not memories of him to pull you back to nowhere.
Slowly get involved in something new; whether it be a new job, volunteer work, a cool class like photography or kayaking or something along those lines. By keeping busy and focusing on making yourself feel good as an independent being, the healing process will be a healthy process.
have faith in yourself and tell yourself confidently that you dont need him and that you are MUCH BETTER THAN HIM....
TAKE CARE AND HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU SOON
CHEERS
2006-07-04 22:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off: The difference between your two ages means nothing, if you were 15 it'd be different, but you're an adult now, so don't let anybody tell you otherwise.
Second, I'm afraid that the only cure is time. If you need to, stop hanging around with him, stop talking with him, etc. I know it's hard, and I know you still feel something for him, but just remind yourself why you broke up in the first place.
It'll take a long time to fully get over him and move on, but, that's what makes love so powerful.
Best of luck.
2006-07-05 04:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by thegreatdg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl. I know what you mean by saying how u feel right know, and i know what u feel about age difference - i've been there too. My advice - don't spoil the love with friendship. If it's over then over in every ways. Time will heal u, although its a cliche, but really works, believe me. Hang around with your friends, engage in new activities, and most important - ignore him. After 3 months u might say u loved him, but would also add it was in past.
2006-07-05 04:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by Solveiga 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess u have to be mentally strong to get rid of these feelings. Just decide one thing in ur mind whether u want him or not. Then stick to it. One man in not the end of world, OK? If u wanna get rid of him, simply change ur company. Find some friends (not boys only), U may be happy with ur girlfriends too. But whatever u decide, please stick to that.
2006-07-05 05:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Fraz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should cut your communications from him because the more you talk to him is the greater it can hurt you. look at him, he was totally moved on because he start seeing other girl...why shouldn't you. make yourself busy and do some enjoyable leisures and stop thinking of him because for me "some guys may go but the best one is always there waiting for destiny to come and see you" never lose hope that you'll find the right one for you. don't close your heart for the other guy. just don't see him again...
2006-07-05 04:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by shijhenn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u got 2 choices u date me cuz i'm so damn hot!! :P
or u just stop talking to him u shouldnt be close friends u will always keep him in mind so stay away from him find some reason to stop thikin get ur self busy and the best is to move on and find someone but dun do it just to forget him!
wish u luck hun!
2006-07-05 04:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow cant understand chemistry between both ur 19 he is 28 approx a married man???
2006-07-05 04:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by pinakbhagwat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, i know what u going thru, it's gonna take some time honey but i have a feeling that u two are going to get back 2geda. i suggest u cut down on your talk time and find yourself something to keep u busy or get a new boyfriend.. H e moved on so he's not worth it, is is a looser
2006-07-05 04:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by Thobie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i would stop talking to him. even if just for a little while. you need to put space between you and him, and i know it will be hard, but if everyday was a struggle there has to be someone better out there for you. don't try to replace him because you can't and that will only make it worse, just take your time and distance yourself
2006-07-05 04:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by barbiedoll17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone once told me a breakup is like a broken arm, it's going to hurt for a while, but with time, it eventually heals. Age has no relevance. Oh yeah, I promise you won't really die!!!
2006-07-05 04:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by theonlyjasmine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋