i loved more fiercely and freely when i was younger. and after being hurt many times, it is sooo difficult for me to get romantic feelings for anyone i date. it's like i have a wall and even though i'd like to break it down, i just can't. instead of love, i get a sick/disgusted feeling in my stomach and if they make a move i find it revolting sometimes-and i know it's me and not the other person.
how do you fall in love again with a new heart?
2006-07-04 20:31:47 · 14 answers · asked by jami p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just wait for the right person
2006-07-04 20:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from become I've also been through several heatbreaks and suffering just like you. But my answer to you question is you have to let love come around, you cant rush it because when you try to rush into a relationship you only get burnt time after time or you may fall to deeply in love and scare the other person away so just let it come around and go outside or out with some friends and have a good time and maybe you'll meet the one you have been waiting for. And also please just try being nice to the person who you are attracted to and give them the time of day and youll see that way could bring you more results,for example: if you went in for a interview for a job and the boss was acting like an a** hole,you wouldn't want to work at that company right?,so just try being a little bit more nice and get out a bit and mingle and don't play so hard to get.
2006-07-05 03:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"i loved more fiercely and freely when i was younger."
Maybe you just grew up :) Loving fiercely and freely isn't necessarily sincerely. Maybe you're ready for a real relationship and that can take a little longer to find. You're probably getting disgusted with the current situation because you know it's not sincere. It's just sex. Slow down, figure out what you want in a real relationship, and then re-approach it less fiercely. Know what you want and stop compromising yourself.
2006-07-05 03:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too cynical. As we get older we have been burned a lot and don't want to touch a hot stove again!
To get out of your funk you will have to make a plan. You have to to first look at what hurt you and why and what you did wrong. Write this down...study for a couple of weeks or as long as it takes until you feel you learned something productive or different to do. Then burn it (literally)...let go of all that crap and all that negativity. Then go on a trip to the beach or woods or New York and let go! Come back fresh and realize you are a human being who is welcome on this planet and you are prepared to love again! Be cautious and don't fall into deep love until you have possibilities of a chance for success. Don't ever regret love again that is yours. Thank you for being able to love.
2006-07-05 04:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ben Jammin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your past painful encounters had left you with an understandable sensitivity towards new relations. It is not the end of the world, as they say. Future friendships, based on the careful choice of a partner with matching interests, can knock-off the walls of estrangement that enclose you. Take it really easy and slow; letting nature remove the old scars and open new horizons for you. I wish you the very best in life.
2006-07-05 03:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It starts with you. Before you do anymore dating I would take some time and heal yourself. get yourself ready to date again. Work on breaking those walls and then when you are ready to date again, take it nice and slow, get to know the girl, and then all of a sudden, the romance will be there.
2006-07-05 03:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Josh H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, man I have exactly the same problem. Please don't tell me that you are me...because i have the identical question, and when people say "just work on yourself" what the F%#@ is that supposed to mean? change your self? HOw? i don't know girl, i was a passionate tiger, now i am a hate-kitten....to love and to live.
good luck.
2006-07-05 03:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by You're giving it all away! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE THE SAME THING, and i asked some of my older friends, and they told me that time will heal my pain.... they said one day ill run into someone that will take my breath away, and the feelings of hate will vanish..... i am still waiting
2006-07-05 03:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by jim20032003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah I need a year after the last one time heals all wounds, especially the hearts.
2006-07-05 03:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by T.J. W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take your time and date like normal, things will come around. Don't worry about things so much and just have fun.
2006-07-05 03:35:57 · answer #10 · answered by showtimegk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋