My friend is on the phone with me and he can't get to computer right now, so he asked me to post this question, so he could get some.opinions This is kinda a long story, but we really need some opinions. My friend(guy, now 14, very mature) was dating a girl (now 15), about a year and a half ago. They dated for about 10 months. They never slept together, he's a virgin. As it turns out, she cheated on him with two different guys. One was a one-night stand, the other was an on-going affair. After he found out they broke up, and she started dating the guy she had been cheated with. About four months later(in Feb 06) he started dating some other girl. About 3 weeks ago he broke up with her, because he suspected she was cheating, plus he had stopped liking her. Soon after, his ex broke up with her bf(the guy she cheated with) and asked him out again. She told him that she had taken a bunch of pills and was going to the hospital. He hasn't heard from her since, and doesn't know what is going on. He's not sure if he should stay with her or not. He wants to give her another chance, but she has put him though alot and he doesn't want to get hurt again. He is even considering that if she was preganant, he might still stay with her. He is very confused. ANY opinions would be helpful.
2006-07-04 19:41:51 · 11 answers · asked by confusedgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems like some people misunderstood, he's a virgin. If she's pregnant, it's the other guys.
2006-07-04 20:06:04 · update #1
once a cheater always a cheater... say goodbye to the girl for good, find someone better!
2006-07-04 19:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion the best answer is NO your friend should not go out with this girl again. Not only did she show she doesn't care enough about him to not cheat, she also tries to get him back by hinting at almost suicide. This girl sounds like she has some pretty major issues and she is just clinging to any guy she can who she thinks will care about her and make everything magically better. Even if your friend really loved her he couldn't fix whatever it is in her head that is making her such a broken person. Thats only something she can do herself, probably with the help of some good counceling. Obviously your friend cares something for her so I think he should tell her that for right now he just wants to be friends. She probably could use a true friend in her life anyway. It really doesn't sound to me as if the girl honestly is in love with your friend. Sounds like she is needy and maybe obsessive. Most people won't agree with me when I say this next part but in my experience people who stay together or get back together because of a baby don't usually last and if this girl is pregnant that doesn't mean that it is his kid or that she won't cheat on him again even if it is his. Could be it is just another ploy (lie) she is using to try to get him back because she either doesn't want to be alone or because she couldn't stand to see him happy with anybody else. I really think your firend would do well to steer clear of any romantic relationship with this obvious DRAMA MAMA. Good luck to your friend.
2006-07-04 20:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Riddle Me This 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drama drama drama.....That is a tough one. Well like I told my friend, maybe you should, I don't know how else to word it, put her through the test. Don't make it known right off the bat that you want to get back with her. Just kinda keep her as a friend and if she really wants you, she won't date anyone. If she doesn't date anyone and you both remain single then I say give it another shot. But beward your more likely to end up screwed over yet again because of the other relationship but if you can put her through some sort of test to make him trust her more, then by all means. It sounds bad but I do it all the time without it being known. Just gotta play it cool and test the waters so to speak. Hope it all works out.
2006-07-04 19:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldn't go back with her! i mean she cheated on him with 2 guys.....and still saw the guy after they broke up! but if he would rather hav his heart put back together and torn apart again...than go ahead. but he should not always think that his gf is cheating just bcuz his ex did. he should just move on to find a decent grl, not a cheater.
2006-07-04 20:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by marissamutilated™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is only 14??!! He might be mature but he's way too young to be in a serious relationship. No way, he shouldn't date a cheater!!!
2006-07-04 20:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by crystalanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend is playing with fire and will get burnt. It will be a good experience to have his virginity broken as the girl already have some experience to teach, he can use it either way
2006-07-04 19:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by Tuxi X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 14 you don't need to have so much drama cut out all this stupid stuff and be a kid.
2006-07-04 20:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has to much baggage. he'd be better off if he left till she has got her life in order.
also WHAT IS IT WITH LITTLE KIDS HAVING SEX people need to wait till they are older maybe when you are out of high school. when your body is mature enough to understand everything and the stress of high school life is over.
2006-07-04 20:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by theswarm666x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he should
He should give her a last chance.. If it doesnt work out this time then forget her...look for another one... but give her a chance...
2006-07-04 19:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by fireashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she did it once she can sure do it again save ur self frm getting hurt again and dont see her any more
2006-07-04 20:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by ghost13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋