MEN ( or women if youve experienced it) do you ever just out of nowhere and for w/o good reason act all cold and distant to your girlfriend of several months?? Like not even a touch, no return of a kiss or hold the hand all night. Would that just mean youre losing interest in her, or can there be ANY other possibilities for such behavior??? And what is a girl to do at that time - act the same or ask what is going on..( since it never happens before and relationships is amazing...)
Any ideas??? please Im very upset ... and thus cant think clearly
2006-07-04 19:06:40 · 7 answers · asked by Jackie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have seen this...because one of my friends did it to a girl that he only knew for a week but she was head over hills for him...basically hes too immature to talk to you about it..but I think he might want to break up with...I mean you should try and talk to him and see if its a personal problem but if its not...he wants to break up he just doesnt want to sack up the balls and tell you so he is hoping that you either get the point by him ignoring you or yea basically just get the point...but because he is retarded it doesnt dawn on him that women have more of a caring nature so that will only make you like him more
2006-07-04 19:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by rdbowles12390 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've had times where it happened, but never for several months. I remember my girlfriend at the time asked me why I wasn't acting as affectionate as I had been. I told her I honestly hadn't noticed, which I hadn't, & we proceeded to find the reason together. I had started a new job recently which was forcing me to work very hard for an average of 11 hours per day, wearing about an extra 50 pounds all the time unless I went to the bathroom, or on the rare occasions I actually got a lunch break. I was also pushing around 4 units weighting over 500 lbs. each to 4 rooms, & was the only person in charge of all those units. So, between stress & physical exhaustion, I wasn't exactly the most rambunctious person when I got home, even though I was glad to see her. After our breakup, she commented she felt like I didn't need her during those times, & that's why she left me. In fact, that's when I most needed her. So, I would say it's time to open the doors of communication. Don't place blame, & just tell him you miss him & want to rebuild what you've had. Hopefully, he'll listen. Good luck.
2006-07-05 02:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this guy/gal, i think you two should sit together and talk what went wrong with your relationship. Probably you have hurt his/ her feeling without u realising it, or prabably he has someone else but unable to inform you. You have to be strong, but do not let this thing prolong. I have experienced this with my so called husband now, we have gone through this similar situation. But manage to overcome the problem by communicating openly with each other.BUT If he is losing interest with you, you must also be able to accept the fact and be prepared. Just think of that if he is the one that changing, than let him be because he does not deserve a good person like you. Okay, all the best.
2006-07-05 02:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by toyat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him.
Things like that normally happen because of relationship problems. Like lack of intimacy (not sex). Some men only want sex, but if you grabbed a good one, then he does care about the holding hands. Especially when it doesn't always lead to sex. Have you guys been communicating? Not fighting a lot?
Just ask him if anything is wrong. If he cares about the relationship, he'll answer you truthfully.
2006-07-05 02:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by heather47374 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give up !!
I am one of those guys at the moment and my partner and I have gone through so much and she does not seem to get that what we have gone through has done some serious damage to our relationship!!
At times I love her but these days most of the time when I look at her I just remember all ofthe time sthat she has pissed me off or hurt me !!
2006-07-05 02:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it happens only when the person waants to dump u but doesnt have the courage to do so.....then this behaviour will help hin/her to make the other person dump the relationship.
Well teh solution is really to sit together...and ask him wht he really wants....and if he wants to get out of the repationship thn so be it...
Gaurav.
2006-07-05 02:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by gaurav_talkies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him or dump him. if its killing you stp the pain!
2006-07-05 02:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by teehee311 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋