I was at the National Mall in DC with my boyfriend(he's latino; but it doesn't matter to me) and all these black dudes were staring at us. I started to get unconfortable because some of them started to say some racsit comment to me and my boy and some of even tried to start a confortation with my man. And they were all saying ' youre one of the prettiest chicks in SE why can't u date a nega?'We tried to ignore them but it go to the point where my man and I left. When he dropped me off to my busstop, a lot of guys were giving us strange looks and some fellow sistas were rolling there eyes. I almost broke down in tears because some of the guys were calling me a 'sellout' and a 'oreo'Whats up? I mean I love who I love this is the second time this has happend to me around my neighborhood. Why do some black folks have to be like this? All me and my man were trying to do is enjoy ourselves and watch some fireworks.
2006-07-04 18:37:58 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lot of races (not just white and black) think that you should stick to your race. Its just the way it is.
I'm a white skinned Mexican and I dated a lot of black girls in my life, there have been times when I would go to the girls house and I got that feeling like they were thinking what is this white boy doing here. I didn't care if they liked me or not, but after a while they learn to get over the color thing and see you for who you are and learned to accept it!
Some people are just so ignorant when it comes to inter-racial dating. Don't worry to much if they stare or say thing, in my eyes they are jealous because they cant have you. Even if you are with another black guy people will stare! That's how it always is, as long as your happy who cares! Stop stressing about what people think and do you!
2006-07-04 18:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl do not let the black folk change your feelings. I am a good-looking, black, and proud muscular male (This is what my girl says about me), and I have liked white girls all my life, and I do not even care, that other people would like to steer my life for me. Has it changed my life to the worst, because my girl is white? NO WAY! These other black folk that give you attitude are envious, and jealous because they are not the guy you chose. If they found a nice girl of different race, they would be proud of their queen. Just because you are black, and live in the neighborhood, and you are so close to them, they have a reason to bug you. I grew up in Long Branch, New Jersey, and the hispanics, and blacks get along like brother to brother, sister to sister, black hispanics, and hispanic blacks. Not everyone will bug you, it depends on the persons' intelligence level with the old saying, "It doesn't matter what color another person is". Right? Everybody thinks that they know whats good for other people. I am still in love with white women, and actually, my new wife is guess what? WHITE AGAIN!!!!!!! Keep your new boyfriend, and tell him to keep on keepin-on. Love, and feelings can be very powerful, and sometimes no one is going to let some words, or comments take this away. If you break up with your boyfriend, then they have won, they have controlled you. If you love someone this much, you stay.
2006-07-05 05:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Moe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a black girl and I'm married to a white man and i understand what your going through and the only reason i think black man say any thing about it is because they think there the most Superior male of all races and they thing that they should have first pick at ALL WOMEN and they do it to intimidate you friend and i think black women do it cause they have never dated out side there race and really want to and are just jealous of you cause you have the courage to do it your right you can only love who you love and know your not a sell out cause I'm a "black"black girl and my husband is a "white" white man so next time you go out and some one of any color gives you any **** just kiss you man ,smile and walk away and be the bigger person by not stooping down to there level of ignorance
2006-07-04 18:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
every race has their people who don't want to see their race with another nationality...I like to date white guys and latino guys myself..when I have went out on dates with other nationalities I got stares and it made me uncomfortable but I just went on about my business because I date who I want..but people can be very rude and ignorant in this world and it's very unfortunate to have to hear and see people treat us a certain way because we choose to date outside of our race but it happens and the only thing we can do is ignore them and continue on with our lives..I live in california and interacial dating is soooo common so people don't say too much but it still happens!! it's kinda funny how people don't say much when a black guy dates a non-black woman tho..I noticed that.. but when we do it, it's not right!! o well!! I still date them anyway!! I hope everything works out for you and your man :) ignore the rude people and you'll be fine!!
2006-07-04 18:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Babii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen girl, you have to stick to what you believe in. I know what you're going through. My bf is white...not only is he white, but he's scottish white. Yup, straight from Scotland. I'm mexican so I know what you feel. I get the same crap from brothers, parents and especially when we go out. In my case, I'm the one that gets the dirty looks from white folk. They make me think..." why is he with you when he could be with one of his own kind"
So no matter what, stick to your guns and F**** everyone else. I'll be marrying this original honky man...I love him to bits and I can't live without him. I would prefer to live without my family since they don't understand, then they don't have the right to be a part of my family. He feels the pressure, but he doesn't care. He's 6'3 and I'm 4'11 or 5'0 with heels LOL
Keep your chin up!
2006-07-04 18:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the record, it's not just black people and it's because inter-racial dating is still a touchy subject for those that have not stepped outside of their boundaries...I have not dated any other race than my African Kings, but a friend of mine who is white has a baby by a black man and I don't think anything of it, however; when I'm out, I still look at other people funny. I don't say anything to them though. That's their business. Not mine.
2006-07-04 18:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a black woman and it does not matter to me. you find love where you find it and your attracted to who your heart draws you to. you cant help it when it comes to matters of the heart. black people need to stop being so ignorant and learn how to mind their business. you got a Latino so what its not their business. I've dated a Latino before and when people stare i say "take a picture it will last longer". their just jealous. they just need to grow up. do what you do sister girl I'm not mad at you. there will always be haters. there's nothing you can do about that. pop your collar at them and dust your shoulders off when they stare lol. keep your head up lady. if people want others to stick to their own kind then why the hell are we so concerned with diversity.
2006-07-04 18:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people are ignorant and cant understand how the world has changed and left them in their tiny box. Dont worry eventually their boxes will get kicked out to sea and we can all be happy again :). Dont let fools get you down sweetie, and please know that when guys see pretty girls that they cant have, they sometimes act very stupid.
2006-07-04 18:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by BeautyMark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im white and my ex is black. we have a 12 year old son. in the beginnig a lot of white people gave me ****. eventhough weve been broken up for 6 years, my family still loves him to death, but his family has the issues with me and our son. they all think just because im white, i'm stuck up and a spoiled *****. they say i ruined him. its just ignorance. you have to just ignore it. you're above that level. when people talk ****, just walk by and smile. dont let it bother you. you gotta do what makes you happy. it isnt nobodys business.
2006-07-04 18:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by mizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey dont let what other people say or do ruin your relationship...its perfectly fine my step dad is white and my mom is black...i rarely see any other black women dating out of their race but i always see black men with another woman besides their race and i think its perfectly fine...i actually applaud them and i think you should just not worry about them because they are just hating.
2006-07-04 18:41:52 · answer #10 · answered by @bsolutely $weet 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋