I am 26 years old, have two gorgeous 6 year olds, and the only guys who seem to be interested in me are the ones who want to base a relationship on sex. All I want is a man who is willing be my best friend as well as my lover, who wants to be there for me and my kids, someone I can have a future with. Is that too much to ask anymore?
2006-07-04 18:31:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no hun it is not too much to ask for
men can be such pigs at times
but be patient and the right one will sweep you off your feet
2006-07-04 18:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by my_bleww_eyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ready made families constitute a strong minded man as you have already experienced. You have peaked my interest but not for the wrong reasons...but how well you communicate with me or any man is key. Hopefully your desires did not immediately lead you to go to bed. Also, within reason, how much control would me or any man have in rearing the children. What is your and their relationship with the father? These questions may hit nerves but it must be faced. Wouldn't mind being there for you...but can you be there for me when issues and concerns arise? This doesn't mean that these situations are bad, but I've learned over the years to never use sex to resolve an issue and never go to sleep with an issue unresolved. Tensions do not have to escalate...be open and forth right.
2006-07-05 02:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by No shame, No game 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not too much to ask. We'd all love to have a man like that, who wouldn't? But like most everyone has said, you need to be patient. You made your choice at 20 and so now your first priority are your children. Don't worry about the dating. Cultivate friendships with the people you would like your childrent to have as a role models, male and female. Cultivate your mind, heart and soul to better yourself. Once you have your house in order, everything else will fall into place.
2006-07-05 01:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't want to pay for another man's kids. Do like Dr. Laura advises, leave the men alone and do the best job you can raising your kids. You were the one who made the bad choice of marrying an inappropriate spouse. Why make your kids pay for it. In 18 years you can marry. If you do find a husband, he will likely be divorced with kids and problems of his own. You're better off alone.
2006-07-05 01:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Superstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately not too much to ask for. A lot of men don't want to take care of another womans kids. Even if you take care of all of the kids' expenses, a lot of men just don't want to deal with kids. I'm not sure why, I think it's because those particular guys are immature.
For all those men who only want sex, they don't deserve you.
Good luck with finding someone.
Think about maybe the makeup or clothes that you wear. Do you wear a lot of makeup or dress like a teenager? Or do you dress like a young woman?
We have to look at ourselves when asking why we only attract one type of guy.
2006-07-05 01:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by heather47374 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men don't want to jump into a ready-made family. Maybe you're scaring off the good ones by speaking of the future too soon? Maybe you date too much and give off the wrong impression? My best advice is to enjoy your children, enjoy your independence, and evenutally the right guy will come along. What's the rush?
2006-07-05 07:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are men out there that would be interested in you and the kids.Maybe you meet them in the wrong places.Maybe you put up with too much from them instead of "giving them the boot".Be patient and wait.All good things come to those who wait.Good luck in the future!Oh.....and if you don't "put out " too soon then they won't use you for sex.
2006-07-05 01:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the married man already face the trouble don't want to take risk again. but exceptions are always there. if u need someone who love you as a friend i am here for you
2006-07-05 01:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say there aren't many man out there willing to accept responsibility..but wait patiently n i m sure u would get the kinda man u lookin for..
2006-07-05 01:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by devangel1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not too much to ask..maybe ur attracting wrong type of people unintentionally...
well u never looked at me ever and never saw me looking at u either...:P
2006-07-05 01:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by gentle_cute_man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋