I don't know how to really get this out...anonimity is the best...I'm 23 and I have NEVER been on a date...make matters worse I have never been asked to go ot with anyone. I'm a little overweight (just at 5'7" and 200lbs...i wear a size 18)...but I wear it well...and I know girls bigger than me that are always with someone...so whats the deal...any hints here....guys...help me out?...what is wrong with me...what would make you completely ignore a girl?
2006-07-04 18:05:17 · 14 answers · asked by lenore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I cannot think of a thing wrong with you. Are you approachable? I am attracted to a nice smile and a great personality, for instance.
2006-07-04 18:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by cheekandfolly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect guys to come after you if you don't hint at them. The girls that are more overweight than you probably flirt or act easy around guys, so they go for her, because she is a "sure thing". You need to flirt often... Some guys may be turned off by you, but many will take the hint. I know you've probably heard it also, but u might wanna lose a little weight to level the playing field. Just a FYI, im 185lb 6'0 guy, and its hard enough for me to get a girl when competing with the kids with six packs. Good luck though.
2006-07-04 18:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Billy Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe these stupid answers! These people must all be fat. I am a person who has been up and down on the weight scale myself but I can tell you for sure that I may be the same person at any weight but I would be the same person if I had dog *@!!& all over my face too and guys would have ignored me all my life. Fat insulates you from other people. It also makes you feel different about yourself. Followed by less energy, etc. Decide today that you are not going to let 60 lbs. control your life. Take charge!! Don't listen to these people that just want to make you "feel" better but aren't going to really help you change what you yourself say you don't like. Yes. It is your weight. Once you love someone, they see you for who you are. But how can they get to know you if inside they are saying, "I have a problem with overweight women." It is hard work to loose the wieght. I KNOW! But, it is healthy. Walk. Change your lifestyle. Change your diet. Change your life. Weight is not everything....So don't let it control your future.
2006-07-04 18:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by Denise A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Lenore, I'm 52 and a little overweight too! You sound like you have a really good personality. Has any of your friends tried to set you up on any dates yet? I have dated girls your size and they were all woman, trust me on that one! Try to not let this bother you too much even though I know it's not easy and things will work out. You are probably very pretty and deserve someone!
2006-07-04 18:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by toughguy2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, guys are often intimidated by beautiful women. Just keep your head up and try to make the first move. Sometimes guys really want to ask girls out but are to afraid. So try starting a little conversation with a guy that catches your eye!
2006-07-04 18:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had this problem and I advised her that where ever she went smile and act as if she was having fun. And let others see you do this. Because people will be drawn to people who are happy. She gave me one of those looks a daughter gives her dad when she feels like dad here didn't know anything. She's married now and has 3 kids
2006-07-04 18:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with sapphire on this one ...You just havent met the right guy!
Your right...your height and weight are fine!
But what do you do for a living....are you intimidating the guys with your brains? Are you making more money then the guys that would normally be around you?
Maybe your just in one of those situations that prevent you from meeting guys because there just arnt any around?
2006-07-04 18:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're desperate, for one. Guys hate pathetic. Self assured, over confidence, and good personality is the way to go. Granted, not all guys will fall for you but your personality, kindness, beauty, and great sense of humor will attract many. LIVE LIFE!!!
2006-07-04 18:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by Kel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must lack confidence. Nothing is wrong with you but you have to have a good self esteem or guys will not be interested.
2006-07-04 18:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
straight up, if you portray yourself as unavailable then noones gonna touch you. you gotta be open, basic physical signs will show this, be socially adaptable too. done
2006-07-04 18:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋