how would you recomend on making my self happy instead of depending so much on my partner and or his presence?

Answer 1

Depending on someone else for your happiness puts a HUGH burden on that person. I should know, my husband is ONLY happy when I am with him. I am a very independent person, so his dependency makes me feel smothered. I am at the age now (46) when I really like who I am, I think that helps a lot. I find that his neediness is a real turnoff. I don't feel that he WANTS ME, but only that he NEEDS me, or someone (anyone) to give him constant attention. To feel better when you partner is not around, stay positive, remember all the things that you have to be thankful for. My Grandma used to tell me that bored people are boring people. Think about it, if you can't stand to be alone with yourself why would anyone else want to spend time with you. Try some volunteer work if you find that you have too much time on your hands. That too can work wonders. God Bless!!!

Answer 2

Wow, I am in the exact same situation. I'm usually only happy when he's around and I'm SO lonely when he's not.. I thought I was the only one who felt this way...

I liked the answers you've gotten..

Keep in touch if you're interested..

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-Chantel

Answer 3

get out of the house and stop focusing on your partner so much.
there's no such thing as a 100% satisfying relationship, so, don't try and demand so much from him/his presence and do more for yourself.

Answer 4

Take time to think of yourself, and remember that you are a complete person with needs and wants and a personality.

Live your dreams, be brave enough to at least try to do them.

Answer 5

wow, i feel the same way and i don't want to feel that way either... i like barkeys reply to your question most and i think that makes sense... i'm just starting a new relationship and i'm afraid i will be too clingy and it scares me... good luck to you...

Answer 6

spend more time with the girls..