ive been with my bf now 2 half years when we were together 4 3 months he cheated on me with another girl at work it was just a kiss i found this out cuz i looked on his fone just to see sloppy messages i had sent him i trusted him fully!! but when i saw this i was gutted we ended splitting up for 2 weeks and got bk together and he said he was so sorry now he has always got on with girls better than guys and i new this but when ever i see a text on the fone off a girl i just cant help think what if i found some messages on his fone bout a year ago off one of his friends he new for years and he was talkin to her but when she asked wat he had been up to that day he lied and ssay nothin even tho he was with me this has happen a couple of times so we split up over that to for 2months we still saw each other and spent time together and he ened up cumin bk on to me so we got bk toether now nothin has happen since but i cant help think he gonna do it again i love him so much shud i trust him
2006-07-04 17:22:06 · 24 answers · asked by donna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DUMP HIM!!! Then DUMP HIM!!! Finally, DUMP HIM!!! Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater.
2006-07-04 17:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some Indians stay suitable with India. This sounds like your boyfriend. Outlook isn't good. My old guy become from India. He ditched the India stuff at Ellis Island. He lived for booze, broads and money - a real American. loved a strong steak, too. by using ways, marriage-sensible, he couldn't be depended on both, he'd lay any female with a pulse
2016-10-14 03:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by sharona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. i'm a straight guy, and it hurts me to do this to a fellow guy, but gyal, u really need to leave this guy.. first off, no one should ever make u feel uncomfortable in a relationship.. that being said, u'll always feel doubts once in a while,, but that's self-doubt or a little low self-esteem creeping in, and that's normal, everyone feels that.. so in ur *next relationship* if u start feeling doubts.. dont let them get to u.. but this guy already proves that he has the capacity to be unfaithful, so u will always be doubting.. always.. leave him and find a decent guy.. take a break and start over.. u'll respect urself and live happier in the end. it'll be though, but TRUST ME.. it works.. i had to go through that with a girl once, and i'm better off now.. i have it sweet..
take my humble advice :)
happy loving..
2006-07-05 16:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by Abdullah M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would talk to him and find out why did he kiss this other girl ? has he explained what drove him to that then may be you should ask your self are you enough for him ? you see my bf done a similar thing to me and i worshipped him and still do we are still together after 9 years but at that moment in time i was not enough i didn't xcite him, and although he loved me in his own way and couldn't really live with out me i just needed to spice up our relationship by doin differ ant things and keep him focused on me and it worked we are still together and he is mad about me , and feels guilty for his past, but life is learning and we were young in our early twenty's and its experience and although you may feel hurt really hang in there coz you will be the one who comes out on top and with your man put the trust back and even tho you wont to go through his phone dint just think to yourself well I'm not goin to show him that this is bothering me, and play it down in a nice way , because this all could be for your attention with out you knowing it ???
2006-07-11 11:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by kathie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I did have anything to do with some who spells 'phone' as 'fone,' then I'd always be on the lookout for messages from someone who can spell it correctly.
Otherwise (deep breath), I could never NEVER have anything to do with a woman who cannot spell 'phone' (or 'telephone')
Sash.
2006-07-19 02:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your pretty limited on choices really!
1) you can either push what happened in the past, out of your head and try to trust him again?
2) make the same c0ck up as i did....and end up losing him 4 good?
3)Dump him!!!!
Please don't go for 2)!!
The situation that you are in, is exactly the same kind that i was in with my EX...He got a stupid text from a girl he worked with, only it came thru to my mobile! Looking back, it was obviously innocent-but at the time, i decided that he was cheating on me (i also had 3 kids with him, and the youngest was only about 4 weeks old at the time!!)
couldn't get this picture out of my head, so after walking on eggshells, in MY house, i packed his stuff and told him to collect it! boy, do i ever regret acting so rash! There is not a day that goes by, when i think about how we used to be, all the stupid things we would do, wishing that i could turn back the time when all this crap blew out of hand! Our youngest is 5years old now, and i miss my ex as much now as i did in the start of us breaking up. Yes, we're both with other people but its not the same! The truth is, i still love him and want him back now...but its just not going to happen is it!? We still love each other, but pride & stubborness got in our way! (he is now seeing the trout that texted him, causing the arguement to start with, but i believe him when he says he wasnt when we split...not for about 6 months-but not thru his choice...he works for her family, lives with her family, best mates with her brother-so he cant go anywhere!!)
So if you really love him, and dont want to lose him and end up as pis$ed off as me....push the past out of your head-never throw it back at him, otherwise you might regret it?!
If you dont love him as much as u thought you did....tell him to sling his hook!!
Good luck.
xx
2006-07-04 17:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are the chump
You could proove me wrong though
Get rid of him
Or stay with him thats what a chump would do
Do you wanna be a chump
dump the lump don`t be a chump
2006-07-13 05:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by itsa o 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop it.. you can't go on like that w/out trusting him. Girl check on him one more time and if you find anything you don't like you know what to do .
If you don't notice anything it's just means you can't let go of the past and it means you creating problems.
In both cases you need to learn how to let go...the question is who you want to let go ...your bf or your jealousy?
Good Luck
2006-07-04 17:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by chigirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust him, if he didnt want to be with u he wouldnt would he. so he obviously does. dont be paranoid u'll only end up ruining ur relationship. but at the same time dont let him walk all over u be straight with him about wat worries u and make sure he knows he cant have the best of both worlds
2006-07-13 01:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by roundtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only reason he comes back is because you are taking him back. If he told the girl that he was doing nothing when he was with you, that only means that he wants to get with that girl, if not, why would he lie to her and not tell her he's with you? He's going to bring you nothing but heartache, dump him.
2006-07-04 17:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by venus11224 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can boys be trusted at all?i chose to be a lesbian for that reason - at least that is much more abot spiritual affinity than pure physical attraction and need for sex.
2006-07-04 20:04:20 · answer #11 · answered by dieleja1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋