I'm 16 and I've never had a boyfriend..all my friends have one and I feel left out because all they talk about is their boyfriends...it's just really getting to me....I get really shy around guys...i don't even have guy friends...is there something wrong with me...
2006-07-04 16:25:22 · 11 answers · asked by elizabeth g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing wrong with you, you share your 'problem' with lots of other 16 year olds...male and female.
Shyness is something that is very hard to overcome. It requires a lot of courage, and work. You have to make yourself talk to guys. You may chicken out 35 times before you finally do it, but however long it takes doesn't matter, just that you don't quit. Once you do it once, it'll become a little easier each time after that. You will probably never lose the shyness completely, but that isn't necessarily a bad thing.
Shyness normally comes from a lack of self confidence, Work on one and the other improves as well.
If you find that you just can't do it, you might consider talking to a therapist or counselor. They may be able to offer suggestions or little tricks you can use to help.
Someone out there would love to go out with you, You'll find him eventually. If may just not be the right time for you. Don't rush.
You don't need a boyfriend to be a whole person, to be happy. Don't let peer pressure force you into anything you aren't ready for.
Best of luck
2006-07-04 16:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal and it's nothing wrong with you. Don't do everything because your friends do it, maybe you are just not ready for that level or aspect of your life. If you like someone, that's one thing, but don't just jump into a relationship to please your friends or others. If it isn't what you want, then don't let pressure bother you. When the time is right, you will like guys and you will find you a boyfriend. Just don't let desperation and peer pressure you win you over, because rushing things will make you more disappointed in the long run. You are normal just as anyone else your age. It's women who are 23 and up who don't have boyfriends, women in their forties as well, so don't feel like something is wrong, the right guy just hasn't came along yet.
2006-07-04 23:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by pumpk713 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not have my first girl friend until I was 18. Some of us very special people take a little while longer in our cocoons to more fully develop our special personalities. I would personally start by developing a couple of guy friends first. Take it slow and fight the peer pressure either directly or indirectly it is better to be your own self than what everyone else is like.
2006-07-04 23:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by andy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. Some people get biyfriends at later ages. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. Maybe the right one just hasn't come along.
2006-07-05 00:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothings wrong with u...its just like ur not ready to get involve in that kind of relation...
if ur happy being single and then enjoy that...
it doesnt mean that bcoz ur friends got thier bf and they have some topics to talk.....u can something too about urself,what u do in the weekend,etc.
2006-07-04 23:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens at different times for everyone. so its not big deal to not have one at the age of 16. when u find someone u want it should work out fine
2006-07-04 23:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with u it normal i'm like that to but i have guy friends ya some like some just r friends but u don't want to have boy cuz most guys just want one thing tust me and my guy friend just be happy what u r
2006-07-04 23:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope nothing wrong with that I'm 19 and never dated yet man. Take your time I know i am.
2006-07-05 01:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age every guy just wants sex but i wouldn't worry about it because like they say guys at that age are usually a$$holes...
2006-07-04 23:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by jen. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its normal
2006-07-04 23:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Neilman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋