How does one deal with a person with BPD, who absolutely refuses to go to the doctor?
2006-07-04 16:10:18 · 10 answers · asked by Allen K 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
BPD is a very hard thing to deal with and be around. Try and encourage them to see a doctor, but remember you can't force someone to do something they don't want to do. Be patient with them; its really all you can do. Don't get caught up in their "drama", just let the person be and don't let them get to you (mentally). Keep an eye out for self destructive behavior, because this is where you may have to step in and take some action. If the person with BPD is a spouse or child, someone you are around alot and more or less responsible for, then do some research on BPD. Find out what you can, so know as much as possible when you are trying to help the person.
Also, you may want to consider joining a support group or finding someone to talk to. Dealing with someone with BPD is very emotionally trying, and it helps to have someone to talk to, especially if the person you are talking to has been in your situation before.
Good luck, and if you need someone to talk to you, or some more advice, let me know.
2006-07-04 16:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by lemonlimeemt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how close you are to this person - if this is a family member or relative you probably want to learn as much as you can about BPD. There are some eduational and support groups out there that can be helpful - NAMI (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill) is one of them.
If this is a casual acquaintance, co-worker etc. you probably want to heed the previous warnings and watch yourself. People with BPD can make your life very diffcult. Boundaries and boderlines don't mesh well.
2006-07-05 00:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by Siri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BPD folks like drama. If you don't feed into their personal dramas (assuming that that's possible--it's difficult to do if it's your spouse or your child), then they can get no satisfaction from scaring you with their seeming lack of concern for their health.
Another part of BPD is self-destructive behavior. And not seeing a doctor would be part of that.
If it's NOT your spouse or your child, you can drop or ignore the person and simply allow them to be self-destructive. At least you'd be saving yourself by not getting all entangled in their "dramas." If it's your spouse or your kid, then, unfortunately, you have to deal with them, BPD and all. The thing to remember is that you can't really save them from themselves--ultimately, you have to not allow them to drag you down with them. You can do this by interacting with them as little as possible.
The only "good" thing about BPD is that people usually grow out of it eventually. (Most psychologists and psychiatrists feel that it cannot be "cured" through therapy, but people often grow out of it on their own.) Just don't positively reinforce their mental illness by getting involved in their personal "dramas." It's also helpful to remember that most teens have elements of BPD in their personalities (they usually grow out of it).
2006-07-04 23:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by Cyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As fast as your legs can take you sprint don't run to an airport. Sorry for all the borderlines out there but you should all be put on an island.Then you can cut and wonder why no one likes you all by yourselves, and the taxpayer won't waste anymore money on b.s inpatient treament for people who like to be sick and seek attention
2006-07-04 23:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by NEOTEH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way that you can stay sain around this person is to remember that you are NOT responcible for the emotional states of this person. (That is your new mantra). When they react poorly, or unpredictably, it is teh borderline talking - NOT a reflection on you or what you did.
2006-07-05 01:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by ***** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pack your bags
get the f**k out
run
don't look back
(this is coming from one with bpd)
2006-07-05 07:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by running2adream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wish to give you some more opinion, but there is 'super' lack of information. I don't like to make any comments or judgement on anyone by the outside. You have to tell us more information.
p.s.
Why they don't want to see a doctor?
2006-07-05 00:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by asknanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a person to be around. Have nothing to do with him or her.
2006-07-04 23:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run fast !!!! Been there done that.....they will literally tear your world upside down.
2006-07-04 23:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by kerrie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run!!
2006-07-04 23:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋