a female (that's what I am, and I am talking about me) goes somewhere alone, like a bar, that we are there because we are lonely AND desperate? I am alone, and often lonely, but I am not desperate. And I hate, hate, hate when a married man hits on me because, of course, he is the answer to my prayers! Right! Does anyone else agree with me? I go to a bar usually to play trivia, and married men, as well as men I am not interested in, get insulted with the fact that I would rather play trivia than pay attention to them! Sorry. Would like some input, please.
2006-07-04 16:07:51 · 27 answers · asked by Wasabandmom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Those of you who decided I am desperate not only because I asked the question, but also because I am online here, guess again. I am here for the summer (I am a teacher) visiting my elderly parents trying to make arrangements for my mom who has Alzheimer's and my brother who is retarded. Thanks for the accusation. My life is full and complete, and my being online means I can't go very far, and I discovered Yahoo!Answers and am enjoying myself. Harmlessly and without anyone thinking I'm out for them... So there!
2006-07-05 07:35:21 · update #1
I think That it it isn't a matter or your being desperate but of them being desperate. A single woman literally single by herself seems like fair game to them. Over look them, it must work sometimes or they would never do it.... and you like the attention some right? Anyhow, I think it is pretty universal scenario. Best wishes
2006-07-04 16:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by colorist 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
face it.....if a single woman had the "i dont care if i have a man" attitude, why would she go to a bar? to play trivia? please....bars are there for one reason and one reason only....to try to find mr. or ms. right. As for the men, whether married or not, they are there for one reason also.......to hit on any and all women in there, it's just human nature. So to answer your question, why would'nt a married man want to think he's "the answer to your prayers".....after all, he assumes you're there to find a guy, and since he already has a woman waiting for him at home, he figures he's a pretty good catch. And insulting men when they hit on you in bars is not right.....like i said, they assume you are there for that purpose.
2006-07-04 23:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Scott H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people go out because they are looking for some type of social; interaction.It sounds like your being rude if you are offending people.If a guy starts talking too you whose wearing a ring tell him your interested in men who aren't married if he's insulted suggest the 3 of you get together sometime to chat I'm sure his wife would like to make your acquaintance.
2006-07-05 00:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also of the female race. I don't think married men who hit on ladies at a bar really think you are lonely and desperate. Married men who hit on females at bars are either doing it for the thrill because there is no more thrill for them or they are doing it in hopes that they will get lucky. They really are not thinking about you (or any female) they are in it for themself only. Thats my 2 pennies.
2006-07-04 23:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Twinkerbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. The men who think they are "all that" when they are away from their wives stink....also, it's demeaning to have men always thinking you are out looking "just for them". But, unfortunately it comes with the territory when in bars and social gatherings where egos get in the way. I have learned (finally) that a simple "no" sweetly said and confirmed, is a complete answer. If said repeatedly enough, the offers will subside.
2006-07-04 23:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right! You have the freedom to go anywhere you want to go, anytime you want to go there...without hassle. I wouldn't worry about insulting the men there. Reminds me of a country song..."I just came here to dance, didn't want a lover!". You just go there to play trivia, not to be the answer to their prayers either. Tell them that, and if they get offended, Oh well! Hate it for them. They're big boys...they'll be fine!
2006-07-04 23:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go to the bar, it just makes everything worse. Play trivia with a friend or family member.
2006-07-04 23:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by LunaFluer711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them politely that you are there to play trivia and not interested in anything they could ever possibly want to say out of the lying, cheating , filthy, backstabbing, family hating mouths. Whew, I don't know about you but I sure feel better.....LMAOOO Hope I made you smile
2006-07-04 23:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most bars tend to be meat markets. If I was going to go to a place to play trivia, I would go to a Bennigan's, BW3's or some other mixed place where there is fewer creeps. It might help if you have a male friend to help run interference for you.
2006-07-04 23:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by andy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are just full of themselves. Ignore them. You're strong and proud to be able to go to a bar by yourself. You know you aren't desperate, so what does it matter what some half-drunk a** thinks?
2006-07-04 23:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋