how can i tell my sister that she is just being used by her boyfriend?

Answer 1

tell her staight up but first get proof

Answer 2

If you have proof that she is being used let her know about it straight up she might be upset at you for the moment but she will also thank you in the long run also if you really want to bust the bubble about her being used you should if you have actual proof that you can show her if your with them for a reason or not just right out slowly talk to them as a normal conversation and slowly add it in to the conversation its very mean and cruel but it dose work but also make your sis aware of it before you even do it earlier in the day then its 2 minds working at once and if hes a true man he will confess but only if you have actual proof you can show if you don't hang in their and see what happens something might be the proof she would actually need to see that its what he has been doing but its my opinion and what i did

Answer 3

Don't TELL your sister. Let her find out for herself.

Just be as close to her so she would know you would always be there no matter what happens.

Renew your sister ties with her. Go bonding. Who knows, she might ask you what you think of his boyfriend. Then that would be the time to give her a hint. But don't tell here abruptly. She might get offended (that's a normal reaction) and get mad at you instead.

You know her better than I do so I suppose you know her better moods.

Try it.

Answer 4

What makes you a better expert on how your sister wants to be treated than she is? You cannot make life choices for someone else. Just let her know by the way YOU treat her that ,she always has someone to turn to,someplace to go & you love her even when she makes mistakes. She will make her own decision , in her own time. If you try to confront her with your opinions now, you will only make her defend him. Then, she will be too embarrassed to come to you when she's ready & needs your support.

Answer 5

1st get yr facts straight. than get some evidence if possible. n if u really love n care 4 her u will tell her. but i suppose if she is totally zing 4 tis guy she will not believe a word u say n even get angry with u n even might hate u n stop talking 2 u altogether. but as a loving sister u had done yr part to warn her or maybe even save her from more heart ache. now its all up to her to make her own decision.

Answer 6

are you looking for a method of telling her--like being subtle or just blurting it out? or are you asking a rhetorical question--should you or should you not?

if it's the second q--should you or not--i guess you have to ask yourself what you expect her to do with the info once you've downloaded it to her. if she continues with her boyfriend, can you respect her decision? or is this a control issue you have with her?

you know your sis. do you think she'd want to be told that she's being used? personally, i'd rather know the truth always so the decision is mine whether i stay in denial or move on. i bet on some level, she's aware she's being used. now that you know, she might have to act on that info (get outta denial).

Answer 7

well u dont want to just blurt it out, cause she may just get mad at you and get real defensive, best thing for you to do is use it from a different angle.. tell her a friend at work is in the place your in and her sisters bf is doing this or that, basically get her to view it from a 3rd party stand point before making her see whats really going on, sometimes when people are in a relationship they are so blind they cant see whats going on right in front of their faces.. good luck..

Answer 8

Tell her what things you see him doing, make a list. Then go on a double date with them and everytime he does something on the list, check it off (on the sly of course). Then ask her if she want a guy doing those things to her in private after the list is full.

Answer 9

I think that you shouldn't say anything unless the relationship becomes abusive (emotionally or physically). She will probably disagree with your opinion and unless she is really being hurt you shouldn't interfere because she could resent it. If that happens she may not come to you for help if and when she really needs it.

Answer 10

tell your sis how you feel, she will take your advice and listen to you, she is your sister and she should listen, after all boyfriends come after true best friends, or in this case, sisters.

Answer 11

Don't tell her. Let her figure it out by herself, and when she comes to her senses. Be there for her, listen to her and comfort her. Don't tell her, "I knew he was using your, or I told you so." Just listen and try and make her feel good, take her out on a girls night out... get your nails and hair done.