I am moving and going to another school for one year, but after the year is over, I'll be back. He says he loves me, but he says he can't wait. I'm hurt. Am I wrong?
2006-07-04 15:53:56 · 29 answers · asked by la reina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Realistically, that is a lot to ask from anyone that you aren't married to.
2006-07-04 15:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what I hate? People especially women that throw the word love around like a bean bag. Statements like "if he loved you he would wait". Horse****. Anybody that would say that has never truly known what ture love and unbearable need is like. If you truly love someone completely and passionately, each day apart is torture. Put 365 of them back to back and it would be completely maddening. If he didn't really love you, he wouldn't care about you being gone for a year. It would give him a chance to "sew his wild oats" so to speak. But he obviously DOES love you and is hurt by your upcoming time apart. Those of you that think he should wait have obviously never had to go a year away from someone that you can't go a day without. Find a way to fix this issue or you may lose eachother forever. You say you're hurt........think about what he must be feeling. YOU'RE leaving HIM for a year.
2006-07-04 23:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by rsqur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No.
Yes - it is unfair as 1 year is a long time to pine over someone for. Long distance relationships rarely work. I would break it off now and concentrate on your schooling!
No - If there was children or your married than that is not unfair - although I gather that this is not the case!!
I would let him go - you never know you might find another love at school!
2006-07-04 22:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by Beccygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it , but you can't expect a guy to wait for you for a whole year. Without any contact? Come on think about if he asked you to wait for him for a whole year? It's understandable that you are hurt, but think of it this way you guys loved each other, but keeping in touch is important if you love someone that much you can't stand to be left without them for that long. So it means that he loves you a lot. focus on the good points of it your single and can get another guy and if you are really in love with him. Just go for the 1 year and if you two are still in love try and get back together. I hope that helped. Good Luck!
2006-07-04 23:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you have to wait one year its probably not worth the wait. For all you know he could be interested in someone else time a year is up. I am not trying to be mean but you're putting him on lock down. Don't believe in that 'if he really loves you he'll wait'. If you truley love him you'll let hime free. And if he is good to you let him loose while the year is ticking, so in the end if he is truley loves you, he will see why he is with you. Oh and don't worry you get to be free too.
2006-07-04 23:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by Emonni K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were u I'd expect him to have a new girlfriend when I get back.
If he REALLY REALLY DEEPLY LOVE U he will wait for u, and no I don't think it's wrong to ask him to wait, but it's not likely to happen if he has already said he can't wait
So may be u should plan on getting another boyfriend
2006-07-04 23:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. A year is a long time for young love. But if he really does love you he will wait no matter what. It sounds like he just cant hold out for one thing which is apparently more important then you.
2006-07-04 22:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jo Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither one of you are wrong. You want a relationship that distance does not matter, and your boyfriend is telling you that he can not do that. HE COULD TELL YOU WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR AND CHEAT ON YOU!
You should accept what he say, live the year and when you get back if there is a chance the two of you can get back together fine if not pursue other options.
2006-07-04 22:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by dscot399 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you keep up a long-distance relationship with him while he waits? If he can't handle only communicating with you using letters/the phone (rather than seeing you daily), then he should really think about whether or not he loves you. I think he should at least try to wait. But maybe he'll agree if you choose to keep a long-distance relationship. :)
Good luck!
2006-07-04 22:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he really loves u then he can w8, but if he says he can't u gotta think it over.....u sure he loves u?
still u should bare this in mind that it could be a little hard for some guys 2 stay alone 4 a long time.....like a whole year
2006-07-04 23:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by rasagisr4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not wrong for you to be hurt but u cant really expect him to wait around on u to get back either life is short...and don't let it get you too down you will be OK and if it is meant to be between the two of you then you will pick up where you left off when you get back...good luck
2006-07-04 22:56:37 · answer #11 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋