theirs a i guy that I love but he is illegally here and is involved w/someone but he says only because she will insure him papers. he says he wants to be with me but he won't leave her and I guess i would always wonder in the back of my mind if he did get with me is he only doing it for the papers but we have a great connection and my family likes him what should I do
2006-07-04 15:41:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave it alone girlfriend. Life is too short for all this chaos and drama. Besides, how would you like it if you were in the other girl's shoes?!
2006-07-04 15:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by hjandf2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,think about this do u want,that u are only the second and the first is the girl who did him a papers to be legal?maybe he loves u and he just used that girl but as he said he won't live her and of course it's very dificult to him to live her...but u don't know the future,maybe someday it's not all about the papers,maybe he will love that girl and never live here anymore.So for u,u think about it,u have to talk to him what's his plan or is he really loves u.If he says again its all about the papers...well,u have to think until when he will get involved to this girl?it maybe years...and u,still have no peace of mind for this years unless they leave each other and u will assure he's all yours..Try not to involved to a "love a triangle" coz it's very hard and no peace of mind speacially if u love this person..Goodluck
2006-07-04 15:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by alison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be blinded by lust. How can you love someone who is already involved?? He's having his cake and eating too. Forget the fact that he's an illegal. If he's doing this to the other woman (the first) then he'll do it to you as well. Don't think he won't. Far too many points against this guy no matter how you look at it. Please run the other way and forget this guy. He just isn't worth it. What a schmuck!
2006-07-04 15:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was with her for just the security of citizenship, and doesn't love her. Then he would break it off with her and go to classes provided by our government to become a citizen of the USA. If he did that than stay with him.
But if he won't than you need to realize that there are options for him to EARN citizenship. Make him earn his own self respect without this other woman. She must be after something from him too. Or maybe he likes having you both telling you each the same crap. If your family likes him don't feel pressured to stay cuz that. They will always like someone else too.
2006-07-04 15:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by reneembrown13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is using someone just to get papers, who is to say he wouldn't do the same with you? Not to mention, if he is entertaining the thoughts of you while he is with her, why would that be the only time? It is good that your family likes him, but your family will like a lot of other boys who are single, like you for you, and are here legally.
2006-07-04 15:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sean/Guy Wiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should leave him u will always wonder if that guy is cheating on u r if he is with u because u have something to offer him. i suggest u leave him besides he has a girl and if he is w/u i guess i will also wonder if he is still in contact with that girl that helped him get his papers, afterall he will always be thankful to her for doing that for him!!
i hope this helps u atleast a bit!!!!!!
2006-07-04 15:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by grace_k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be a good idea to stay with him, especially since he has made it clear to you that he is staying with a girl just because she can insure him with papers.
2006-07-04 15:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stay with him. Loving you means sacrificing and if he's in a relationship with somebody else and can't give that relationship up to be with you, that should already say something. Be strong and be smart cuz you're worth so much more.
2006-07-04 15:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by bcbebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. It won't work. He most likely wants you to say if you give him his papers he will be with you
2006-07-04 15:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by anadah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he really loves you he would forget the papers and brake up with that women and go to you. i say thats a test for him so you can see if he really loves you
2006-07-04 15:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by Stacey l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋